[Icecreamman31]

I've often thought of my past, and the relationships that I've had. Just recently, I've been called a man-*****. "Why?", I asked myself... then it dawned on me. None of the relationships that I've been in have lasted more than a month, and EVERY single one was started with no advances on my part, but with a woman that was "taken" or "in a relationship" already.
My latest 'victim' currently wishes that she could be with me, but has a boyfriend in prison. I can't help that, I knew that, I resisted making any advances despite my co-workers (when I worked with her) trying to fix us up. I am a natural caregiver. I see someone in need, and I give them all I can to help. She was stressed about her boyfriend one night, and I offered to talk if she needed it. She came over and vented, we had some drinks (too few to matter imo), and she started talking about how work was also stressing her out and her back was killing her.
Helpful little me thought, "Well, I took classes in massage therapy. And although this might be construde as an advance, we're both adults and she knows I'm sitting her talking about her boyfriend completely understanding that they're happy but sad due to the situation." Yeah, I thought it out, because I didn't want something to happen that would (again) give me the reputation that I had held at my last few jobs.
I offered a massage, she agreed. She began talking about her stress at work again, and mentioned something to the point of, "why do you have to be so nice?". I asked what she meant, and the rest is history... or perhaps a little less.

How, I wonder though... could someone feel so strongly about someone that they would cheat on their boyfriend, and then leave "in the middle" ??? I was astounded as she began crying, grabbed her things, gave me a hug, and apologized for her actions.

Since then, we've talked... but not on the same level, it's always been work. I miss her, as we've been close since she started working there, and it was obvious to everyone that something was going to happen between us. The day after, everyone started treating me differently (her as well, which worried me most as I was used to it). Why, might I ask, does this kind of thing happen to me?

[jerrymichele]

You know you can find a lot of single women if you would look. I don't know you, but from what your saying is that most women think that your a player. If you want a long term relationship you should find a single woman. One thing you could try is taking them out to dinner, instead of inviting them over to your house so soon. Next time someone wants there little fix with you, just say I won't get involved if they are not single. I seem to think that the woman in question is feeling quilty about her behavior. I think that she wants to stay with her bf. If it were me I would just leave her alone. Besides that, do you really want to always hearing about that guy.

[theotterone]

Just a suggestion, but maybe you need to make a policy of not getting involved with someone unless they are available. Go out and do things you enjoy or are interested in, and you will find people with the same interests (says the woman who met her husband over a Ball Python at a herpetological society meeting)...

[Lenny]

Your post leans a bit toward victimhood...we are a result of our choices not our abilites..

Icecreamman it simply takes two hands to clap...

Don't be one of them...

With Care,

Lenny