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Old Sep 19, 2009, 06:55 PM
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This may be long..and some points may seem stupid, but mind you my family is and has always been a bit screwed.

My mom and grandmother have never gotten along. For a few months they'll get along and then all Hell breaks loose. My grandmother is bipolar. They are always concerned on this dumb car my grandmother gave my mom. She gave it to her a few years ago, but technically she still owns it, having it in her name and having the title.

She's taken this back many times and given it back. I think it's stupid and my mom shouldn't continue taking it back, but hey, it's her decision. We actually thought the car was stolen one day, and low and behold who has it? My grandmother.

My sister who is an adult lives with my g'ma. She's basically staying with her for money. This being, I think this is why she never sticks up for my mom (you'll get that later).

So when my g'ma went to the hospital last June, she promised my mom she'd pay her phone bill (we have had tremendous financial issues). My older sister called it in for her, and apparently, my g'ma "forgot" about it, and called the phone company saying she wasn't going to be responsible. She's always done this kind of thing.

My sister lied and wont take up for my mom, saying it never happened, when she was the one who called it in. My grandmother claims she took it back to get new furniture. Her furniture is fine.

So to get to the point of the title, it's getting unbearable. After everything my g'ma has put my mom through, it's not only stressing her out, it's stressing ME out. I'm SICK OF IT. She's either really depressed-pathetic looking in her room or really pissed off at everything, usually getting mad over the itsy-est things, and going on an all out rage.

I'm so tired of all this, of my mom, grandma, myself. I have my own stress at school. I don't need this

HELP ME.
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Old Sep 19, 2009, 07:24 PM
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This may be long..and some points may seem stupid, but mind you my family is and has always been a bit screwed.

My mom and grandmother have never gotten along. For a few months they'll get along and then all Hell breaks loose. My grandmother is bipolar. They are always concerned on this dumb car my grandmother gave my mom. She gave it to her a few years ago, but technically she still owns it, having it in her name and having the title.

She's taken this back many times and given it back. I think it's stupid and my mom shouldn't continue taking it back, but hey, it's her decision. We actually thought the car was stolen one day, and low and behold who has it? My grandmother.

My sister who is an adult lives with my g'ma. She's basically staying with her for money. This being, I think this is why she never sticks up for my mom (you'll get that later).

So when my g'ma went to the hospital last June, she promised my mom she'd pay her phone bill (we have had tremendous financial issues). My older sister called it in for her, and apparently, my g'ma "forgot" about it, and called the phone company saying she wasn't going to be responsible. She's always done this kind of thing.

My sister lied and wont take up for my mom, saying it never happened, when she was the one who called it in. My grandmother claims she took it back to get new furniture. Her furniture is fine.

So to get to the point of the title, it's getting unbearable. After everything my g'ma has put my mom through, it's not only stressing her out, it's stressing ME out. I'm SICK OF IT. She's either really depressed-pathetic looking in her room or really pissed off at everything, usually getting mad over the itsy-est things, and going on an all out rage.

I'm so tired of all this, of my mom, grandma, myself. I have my own stress at school. I don't need this

HELP ME.
Frankz,
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with these games going on all the time. You have a ring-side seat for some of the manipulative, childish behaviors that can go on between family members and believe it or not, they even go on in famililies that don't have mental illness among its members.

I know it's really hard to ignore this kind of stuff going on around you all the time but the more of it that you can ignore, the better. I get it that it's difficult especially when you are right there and have to interact with them. And it's your mom. I'm not sure what your age is.

Do you have someone that you can talk to about these things? It would be really important for you to have close friends that you can confide in. Do you have a support system? Of course, keep posting here. We always care about what's going on with you.

Do you get exercise? It is a really good way to work off the stress you experience. Running or biking is good. Something that gets your heart rate up and releases endorphins that help you feel better. This will help you feel better and is much better than anything else you can do to release the stress. Meditation is good, too.

Please keep posting.
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Old Sep 19, 2009, 07:29 PM
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Frankz...

I hear your frustration and anguish!!

I went through something similar when I was a teen. I'm sorry that you are experiencing this. The situation is a bit tricky because it sounds like your whole family is wrapped up in this and not one of them are thinking about it clearly. I know that when I went through this I felt like I was pushed off on my own in a corner and was the only one that could see the whole thing burning down. I would get so stressed because the rest of my family would tell me I was the one with the problem.

My suggestion to you...if you have someone in your family, and adult, who isn't caught up in this...can you talk with them and let them know how this is affecting you? Maybe they could offer some sort of help. If not...are there any God-Parents, or parent's of your friends that you trust enough to talk with?

You could also speak with your school guidance counselor. I don't know if this is something you'd want to do or not. When I was in junior high and high school I couldn't stand either one of my guidance counselors and I thought they both had their heads shoved up their *ss*s!! LOL!!

But seriously...they would be able to help you get through this!!

Keep us posted on how things are going!!
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Old Sep 19, 2009, 08:20 PM
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Old Sep 19, 2009, 08:52 PM
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Awww, Frankki~

You have my #..or used to...CALL ME!! (If you need it again, lemme know and I'll give).
You have all other contact to me...contact me. I know we are states apart from eachother, but we can work out something where I can, hopefully, be of some help to you. After all, you've been there for me in my time of need...goes both ways.

I'm sorry to hear that your gma is creating such conflict for all of you, especially your mom. I can only imagine how hard this is on her.sigh..the manipulations of parents. I'm sorry.

Keep in touch. Let us all know how you're doing.

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Old Sep 20, 2009, 03:40 PM
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Old Sep 21, 2009, 05:35 AM
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I assume you have told your mum and gran how this is affecting you ? If not do so ! Then you have to take a step back and tell them you cant cope with it do dont want to hear about it, tell them you have things in your life to deal with and dealing with their games is just too much for you.

If your mum or gran creates and has a go at you do the adult thing and walk away.

Everytime they go to do somthing out of order just say 'I dont want to hear it' and walk away.

It is not for you to deal with its their problem not yours.....

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