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Oct 13, 2009, 08:33 AM
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Hi,
I have been happily married for 1 1/2 years. I have been with my husband for 6 years, though. I have an 11 year old son from a previous relationship. My son has always had some issues( he was abused by his real father), but we have all been through everything together, and have always been close. Last mont, my son set a papertowel on fire in our hallway, and the firestation came. There was no damage/no one was hurt, but my husband says it is the last straw, and that he no longer loves my son. He is sure that he will grow up to be a criminal, and does not want to waste anymore time on us. I want to find a way to work through this, but I don't know what to do. I have placed my son in counseling, and would like to attend counseling with my husband as well, but he says it won't help. How do I get him to come around? Also, ever since this happened my husband has been obseesed with hanging out with his single friends at nightclubs. It has become a 2/3 night a week thing, and it is very upsetting that it is nights that we would normally have off to spend time together. I feel that he is being regressive, and it certainly is not helping our other issue. I am very resentful of the way he is treating me and my son. |
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Oct 13, 2009, 02:21 PM
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my sweet heart....your son should be your priority....your husband seems very insensitive and looking for excuses to get over the responsibility....
Probably, some therapy will help, if you can drag him into it.... I think you should talk to him and make it clear that your son is your priority and his life is important...and he's a kid, kids are making all kinds of mistakes.... Just keep in your mind that you can change a husband but you your son will be your son forever.... take care Marjan |
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Oct 13, 2009, 02:23 PM
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Well it sounds to me that he is using your son as an excuse to everyone for going out clubbing ! Bit of a coward if you ask me ....
Look after your son your hubby is certainly looking after himself. |
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Oct 13, 2009, 05:01 PM
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Don't let your husband use your son as an excuse. If your H won't go to counseling, go on your own. Just realize there may come a time that you will have to confront him about using your son as an excuse or "escape hatch".
Concentrate on getting you and your son the help you both need, and know you are supported here!
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