[Dominic P]

I have been with my wife for 18 years married for 12 years. I have no disorders that I am aware of but if I was to be completeley honest I feel I might be codependent. My wife Angela has multiple disorders such as Bipolar manic depressant,A.D.H.D.,OCD,epilepsy and she is disabled from a car crash where she broke her neck and had surgery but she is in constant pain. Angela is on many medications such as Trileptal, lamical, dextroamphetamine, kolanopin, opana, oxycodone, soma and nexium. Sorry for the misspells just remembering all of them is hard enough. With the added stress of the economy and lack of work it feels like the levees are pushed to the maximum and my patience has been wearing thin. Just recently anger became an issue I am a laid back kind of guy who doesn't get angry easily but after 18 years she has discovered how to get my goat. With technology there is no place to hide and catch my breath. We are in constant contact and I have plenty to do and she has been bored and she is having trouble finding something constructive to do with her time. Because she cannot do this it makes her feel like she is spending all of her time taking care of me doing household chores and paying bills. I have suggested things for her to do but no luck with that. I just don't want her anger to turn me into someone I am not. Any suggestions?

[mholland0071]

sit and talk with her and make a plan for something fun just the 2 of you. You and her will be fine.It is a hard time out there right now and it will get better just give it time

[Pomegranate]

If you can afford some kind of marriage counseling I think that might help both of you. If she won't go, go by yourself. If you are feeling overwhelmed by her neediness or anger, take time to get away from her and enjoy yourself. She may react in a strong negative way to this, but let her know that you need some space or it could ruin your relationship. This should get her attention and make her try to give you some understanding that you deserve.