worried about what i did

i am very worried about what i did this afternoon.

i am in a 9-10 month old, relationship, it is long distance. we are exclusive, and have spent time together in my country, and his, and are planning to be together again as soon as he can get time off work.

but recently his daily phone calls (he has a great, cheap plan) have stopped. no explanation. now it's down to, um, i talked to him sunday and only because i emailed him and said, if you aren't busy could you give me a call?
((i knew he wasn't busy. he had emailed me))

he still does email me everyday, but i am not sure why the phone calls have stopped. i worried and worried and tried to speculate - and finally today i just wrote him (i couldn't tell him on the phone! ) ((he is the one w/the phone plan))

so i wrote and just asked him outright. and i was very caring in my approach, told him i miss our contact, and i am sad not to hear his voice.
i also said if something is wrong, i very much want to try anything it takes for our relationship to work out, i want us to communicate and to understand each other, but ultimately i am very confused about this lack of contact, and i would like him to tell me the reason he doesn't want to speak to me anymore.

we have no fights, only one argument in all this time, and even it was conducted with no raised voices , and both of us wanting the same outcome.

i'm now afraid to open my email box to see if he has replied : ( and will be terrified to read it, if i see it there : (
our time zones are such that he is likely in bed by now, and no, he didn't call me, even though i know he got the letter.
(i txted him that i sent it, he txted me back, that he saw it. )


sad terrified and all alone
wish i had said nothing
but then, what good is a relationship if you can't talk about anything, together?
sorry this is so long.
no one can help - i just needed to get it out, as i feel very much alone at this time. i may have support from a friend in my email box but i'm afraid to go to my mail

thanks to anyone who reads. thanks to PC for letting me post

sweety, I think you should open it up, and I think it's GREAT that you did what you did. Being open is so important in a relationship

Best of luck, let us know how it goes

You did a superb job by opening up and telling him how you feel. Maybe he is just getting cold feet. This will pass. Again, you did a great job and ought to feel good about it. Keep up the good work. Sending good thoughts to you. phoenix47

Just wanted to add to what the others have already said...

You did the right thing in talking to him! Your relationship, while not baby fresh, is still quite young, and keeping the line of communication open are important, especially in a long distance relationship! I know the feelings of dread and apprehension that come with a possibly devastating reply waiting to be read.... Take courage, in the long run knowing is better than not. And we're here to talk whatever the outcome!



Best wishes,
Ro