Should I end this friendship?

I'm wondering if I should end my friendship with a friend of mine. For 2 1/2 years, I was an Activities Assistant working with elderly people before I quit & came back to college this Fall. While working there, I became close friends with a resident I called Grandma. I did a lot for her because I love & care about her. Even after I quit, I came home frequently to visit, I called once or twice a week, & sent her a few cards.

Well, just recently, I received an email from my now former boss (she still works there) saying she received, in writing from her family, that they felt like my cards, visits, & calls were excessive. They said I can still visit & send her cards every once in a while as her friend. I was shocked! She also said her family doesn't want me to call her Grandma. I am still hurt & angry over this. I emailed my boss back & said I was sorry, I didn't think I was doing anything wrong, I'm not trying to take advantage of her, & I'd never do that. I also said I called her Grandma because she's my friend & I love her. My now former "Grandma" knows because she & a family member talked about it. She is fine.

I wanted to go visit her Dec. 5th, but the residents will be going to a Christmas parade that morning & a play that afternoon. I had emailed my boss to ask if I could visit her then, & that's when I found out about the activities. I responded back & suggested Dec. 19th, but haven't heard back yet. Also, she has to call the family to check with them/let them know. I hope they (or not even just one) will not be there during the visit, because if they are, I will not go.

I don't know what to do. I feel like I want to end this friendship just because of what her family did. I admit, I do not like her family anymore. I also don't feel attached to my now former "Grandma" anymore; I used to love her a lot, but don't anymore. I feel hurt, angry, & sad. I have even cried over this. I just don't know what to do.

Well, thanks for the help! This will be the last time I ask!

I have decided to end this frienship. I have only one true friend anyway; she was another one, but not anymore. I don't consider anyone else I know really well my friends anymore. I used to, but not now.

I am so very, very sorry this happened to you. It must be heartbreaking. I don't have any great words of wisdom for you but I wish I did. I know this hurts so much and I wish it hadn't happened.

Jan

Thank you, January. You're right, it does hurt. I'm so angry at her family & even at her. I wonder what was said when she & her daughter talked. I wonder if she told her (or another family member) that she enjoys my visits, calls, & cards & they perhaps didn't listen, or if she said nothing. Another thing that bothers me is that she's okay about it! I can't help but wonder if she's even been lying to me this whole time we've been friends. Perhaps, & hopefully not, but I still can't help but think & worry about it.

I believe I will email my former boss & tell her even though I've not heard from her when I checked to see if I could come Dec. 19th, that I plan not to come see her or even keep in touch anymore. I won't say why. I'm too uncomfortable to go there because I'm uncomfortable being around my now ex "adopted Grandma"/friend, & even the others there who know we were friends.