[adamsgirl]

My boyfriend broke up with me after 5 years and I don't know why.
He won't take my phone calls or call me. I know I cannot fix what has happened, but I just feel so sad. I feel awful. I have bipolar disorder and I cannot afford to sink into a depression. I have other male friends in my life, some that even want to start a relationship with me. But I cannot get over what has happened. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can feel better?

Five years is a long time to be with someone ..... You need to give it time ..... I wish I could make things better for you.

[lynn P.]

I can understand how you must feel devastated but remember, nothing including a man, is worth your health. Do you know why he broke up and won't communicate? It's normal to feel sad and you'll go through many different emotions similar to mourning feelings. I don't recommend jumping into another relationship to soothe yourself, since you said you have other interested fellows. Be good to yourself and be around kind people. You will get through this and everything happens for a reason.

[adamsgirl]

I have no clue as to why he left me. It is really crazy. I cannot even sleep at night. I am trying to be good to myself and just take it easy, but it isn't easy. I know getting into another relationship would not be a good thing, but it is really hard to be alone.

[Belle1979]

Originally Posted by adamsgirl

I have no clue as to why he left me. It is really crazy. I cannot even sleep at night. I am trying to be good to myself and just take it easy, but it isn't easy. I know getting into another relationship would not be a good thing, but it is really hard to be alone.

Hi Adamsgirl,

I was once known on here as 'missing mark'.. my other half of 5 years broke up with me a little over a month a go with no warning... He says he just stopped loving me - still can't tell me how or why... He is now with a new woman who is 5 years younger. He says now that he doesn't know if he loves me or if he loves her.
I searched for answers and never really got them - I'm a problem solver so haven't felt complete because up until the end I thought we were happy.

My advice to you - as given to me by many wonderful people on this forum, is to not blame yourself, it's his loss. Time does heal all, it wont feel like that now for you. I found that going to therapy and getting new medication has helped a bit. Lynn P. said to me that it's like a roller coaster ride and it is.

Surround yourself with people that love you dearly and talk, talk, talk.... Just saying it all out in the open makes a huge difference.

You have my heart felt support and wish I was there to hug you tight.

May you find peace.