long story. running in place.

i guess i'll start by saying he was the first guy i have ever loved. I let him in and shared ith him my deepest fears and secrets things i thought i could never tell anyone i tol him. We dated for 8 months to some it might not sound long but it was also my longest relationship.we were on and off during those 8 months because he cheated on me twice. Once after i gave him my virginity. That one hurt but i loved him and took him back. He was special to me. After that he was the most caring attentive boyfriend ever he had cried in front of me just sobbing he was so scared of losng me and i wasn't wanting to leave him eiter so i forgave him again. I was moving away to college and he was taking a year offand was stressed about me leaving but we had talked about how to make it work. One day we were having a stupid arguement about somethng i can't even remember now and he called it off. this time he was for real. He ignored me almost all summer near the end of the summer he started telling me we could hang out and every weekend i waited for him only to have him say he had decided to go do something else. I found out he had been talking to another girl. i wanted to die but he had started seeing me again and promised me he wasn't going to be with her. We've been broken up for almost 6 months now but i've gone to see him almost every weekend since school started. It was like we were still together except he wouldn't go out in public with me. He said his new friend would be really hurt because she really liked him and she seemed sweet so i agreed. I met a guy at school and this was during a time when my ex had been blaming me and getting mad at me for things that shouldn't even matter like why i didn't call him. This new guy was so sweet so i went out with a few times casually. I didn't really like him but he made me feel good. we kissed a few times that was it before i called it off. i couldn't do it, it felt wrong. I told my ex who got super pissed he said it was practically cheating and that he couldn't trust me anymore. i've been faithful to him since then(Almost 3 months since i it happened.) he still says he can't be with me but him and this other girl are hanging out alot. i told him to stop playing with me and just go date her but he says he can't because he still wants me but at the same time doesn't. i'm so confused and hurt and i feel like the world is just going to collapse around me. i can't hurt him. but i can't keep pretending i'm ok every time i bring it up he won't talk about it. i feel trapped i love him and know its probably best to let go but i can't and it seems nether can he. if anyone can give me any advice or words of encouragement or explain why he's doing this to me i would appreciate it. sorry for making it so long.

I knew two girls .....

One was dating and getting married to a man untill he called it off at the last moment, she was so so upset you can imagine !

He had been going out with this other girl behind her back for a few months then finaly just before the wedding he tells her the truth.

After a few months he begs forgiveness and she finally agrees to take him back. He swears he has changed and so they get engaged again.

The other girl .....

She met a man and started to go out with him but then she heard rumours that he was going out with someone else and so gives him an ultimatum her or me.

He chose her, however after a six months or so she was told by a friend that he had been seen with another woman. She dumped him.

This was two people I knew and the man was both of the girls 'partner'.

This scenario went on another time with the marriage off then on, last I heard he was seeing both girls behind each ones back.

Men like this are not common but are there. They play one end off of the other wanting the best of both worlds because they cant make up their mind. In the middle of all this there are two woman very very hurt and upset most of the time.

He is a weak selfish man and the two woman are fooling themselves.

Sorry but I believe you should get rid of him and fast as there is no future for you with him.