[Lexi232]

I got into a fight with my ex. through text messages..
I didn't know him very well. And during the fight I found out he was pretty mean and nasty.
I sent him a message saying "okay, well don't ever talk or text me agian. this is goodbye. i dont' play well with theives" then I got like 27 messages from him and many of them saying that I needed him, and that HE was the one that was being harrassed by me, and I needed to stop texting him. and he turned it all on me, so I didn't text anything back. then his 25th message said "your windows have no locks on them, someone could really break into them easily". and then the 27th message said "you'll be sorry!"
Then when i texted back saying "STOP TEXTING ME YOU BIG BABY!! YOU ARE THE ONE HARRASSING ME! YOU ARE NOT THE VICTIM HERE!! NOW STOP IT DA** IT!! I sent you 2 messages, you sent me 27, who's the one harrasing here?!" and then his girlfriend texted back using his phone saying i was crazy, and he only texted me a few times and she was there, so i needed to leave him alone and move on. and oy! I have text message history in my phone proving otherwise.. She doesn't know what she's talking about..
Anyways there are recent hand and finger marks on the outside of my windows like someoen was trying to open it, and now i'm super paranoid. I don't know his real name, only his alias, and i don't know his complete address. I have pics of him though.. and he's illegal here in the united states.. I want to know how can i get a restraining order. He has a kid here, and I don't want to rip him away from his child, because i think he does support her. I'm just so shakey and scared right now..
I know it's my fault i never should of fallen for him so quickly and moved so quickly with him, and i know I should of broken it off quicker, but i didn't..

[tonih]

First, put locks on your windows and make sure the rest of your house is secure. Then, do whatever you need to do to keep safe! If he is threatening you , the consequences are his to bear! As for his child, if he is as unstable as he sounds, perhaps she will be better off without him. Good luck and stay safe!

[AAAAA]

Lexi, stop texting him, block his number, by replying you gave him the response he wanted. If you rent your home, contact your landlord and tell him/her that you do not feel secure in the home with windows that do not lock. In the mean time, go to Wal-mart, Menards, Home Depot, or Lowes and pick up some shims (ask if you don't know what they are, ask). Wedge the shim in the window to prevent it from being opened.

Contact the police immediately with the text messages, even though you don't have his info, get a PPO and call 911 if he EVER shows his face around your home again. I rarely support a person keeping their child from a parent not living with them, but risking your safety (AND that of your child's) is not a good idea. If he wants visitation, made him go through the court to get supervised visits.

Get your phone number changed immediately, do NOT give him your new number no matter what his excuses are. Don't give it out to anyone that would share that information with him. It's a good idea to get out of that social circle completely.

[NuckingFutz]

Wow, this guy sounds like a real psychopath. I am so sorry this is happening to you. But there is a lot of good advice given. I would call the non emergency police number. Tell them you have many text threats that you would like the police to have as evidence. You may have to go down to HQ and make a statement. Make sure your windows lock. Keep posting if you get scared.

[lynn P.]

Good advice from AAAAA. I agree call the police and keep a record of those text messages - document everything. He should be allowed visitation, but you can arrange for the transfer to be in a public place. Best of luck.

[salukigirl]

I agree with everything above and I hope you take this as a lesson to be more weary. Not even to know a person's real name or address? That should be a red flag. I really hope you can see those in the future to avoid this situation again.