[Cub1984]

I have an issue and need some advice. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months now and we have had so much trouble he gets mad and packs his stuff every week or every two weeks and leaves. I always take him back but here recently his mom came over and was mad at him because he wouldn't give her any money so she told me that everytime we seperate and he stays with them his baby momma goes and stays with him. He swears that she is lying and even his brother and the brother's girlfriend said she was lying cuz she would do that to them as well. But my issue now is I don't trust him I'm always accusing him of doing something or talking to someone through phone or tx. Everytime he goes to his moms I make a comment telling him he's going to see the other girl. He has cried his eyes out to me swearing that he has never cheated on me but I can't get what his mom said out of my head. HELP plz

[Shangrala]

Ok...Lemme see if I understand what you've said....
When your bf leaves during his tangent, he goes and stays with his mother. And while he is at his mother's place, the mother of his child (his ex) comes over to stay with him, as well? Is that right?

If so, you have his brother and his gf's verification that what his mother is stating to you is a lie, which is exactly what your bf is telling you, (that his mother is lying)...correct?
If that is the case, (that his mother is, in fact, lying to you), then where is the distrust your bf has earned with you?
I fail to see, (or possibly don't understand) where your bf has earned your distrust.
Granted, his behavior of his temper tantrums are uncalled for, especially repeatedly. Maybe if you can get to the understanding of why he continues to behave this way, then you may be able to resolve something with him so he wont have to storm out every couple weeks?

I'm not even certain if I'm understanding this correctly.
Maybe if you can provide a little more information/clarity, then we can be of more help?

Shangrala

[Elysium]

Just curious...

How old is his Baby?

How old is he?

How old are you?

What reason does he give you for packing and leaving?

There is a way to stop this from happening. DON'T take him back!!!

Regardless of whether he is cheating or not, it's hard to trust anyone if, instead of working out their problems, they run away to Mommy every time things get difficult. It sounds like he has some growing up to do still and that you might want to start setting some boundaries with him.

And do yourself a favor....don't be his next Baby Momma until he is mature enough to handle the family he already has. And that family includes you.

Keep us posted if you like.

[youOme]

you either have to trust him or let him go. your only tormenting him and yourself. it seems to me he is begging for you to believe him. give him a chance.