[Persey]

I believe lots of us here have alot of friends, from hi bye friend to best friend forever...

i dont have much friends except those hi bye friend which we dont talk much unless they needed you to sign up credit card form, or buy health insurance from them..

best friends forever i have 3, one which is more than 10 years, we went to high school together. lets name her (P)

P and me been friend for so long, and my parents know her and often she came to my house for baking session, or we hang out together for foods, movies, and indoor sport.

P is indeed selfish (yes i think inherit her selfishness to my later life) because she wont do anything not benefit to her, instead she will take advantage over everything, from monetary form, knowledge and etc.

During high school, no doubt she helped me alot in my English, but in return i do help her up in her math. so i assume it can be contra away in terms of studies. But when come to other things, she will keep it a secret, (example school history project) she wont share whatever information she find but she try to get hold of what i get. I am very naive, i shared until i learned the fact.

Once we graduated from high school, she was lucky to receive scholarship to study abroad, i know she did far before she told me, but i just remain quiet. She is good in those applyin for scholarship places, but she never ever shared it with me, never mention to me about it (because im not aware of it), until the day she is going to fly off to her study destination.

i got so upset of her selfishness, but still i remain friend with her, we keep in touch despite all the things she did, and yes i dont be bother about it, until now when things started to change.

after graduating from her college, she return to homeland, got a job that lasted for 2 years.. and later work in other company which just started for few months. upon approval of becoming the company permanent worker, she rejected by asking for working as 3 days part time, well the boss accept it.

what hurt me most was when she told me that she work 3 days and her pay is as much as i work 7 days. do u hurt ur friend like that?

n things just keep coming, more hurtful words by her... she enjoyed calling me by names (which i dont mind but recently i do mind very much and i feel like i being bullied by her since i dont know when) sometimes she called me fat, and often repeating it... which hurt my self esteem...

and she always said a lot of man r interested in her but she pay no attention to them, saying alot of man have crush with her, since high school, i wonder what do she trying to prove... i know im loveless. n dont have a lot of friend....

recently she complained that she dont have transport to go here and go there... but i told her is her own problem for making this problem, since she is so free (working 3 days a week) why cant she just take the driving test and stop complaining about it?

when i told her is her own problem, she said she will remember it ... yes i know she is very revengeful, although i am revengeful, but i always let go the anger... and the more i talk to her, the naive me turn out to be clearer, i am so much naive to think everyone is a nice person, but often it prove me wrong, do i have to give up trust towards ppl, because of what i been experiencing?

what i learned now is she never share, if things that benefit her she never share, like she joined youth camp and other things she never bother to tell me or invite me, she only do so after the campaign is over, because she fear i will outshine her? or i dont know what is her real reason... im just simply tired of it.

is very strange that i try to save this friendship for so many years, when she called n asked me to do calculation for her, without hesitation i helped her up, but in return this is the treatment i received from her, besides she is very smart in asking for solution in business, she will asked me for lots of suggestion for her own benefit, but when i asked her, she will use different sentence to change the topic, she simply dont share.

so sometimes i said i learned something new from senior, and she quickly will asked what knowledge and demanded me to share... now to think of it, ill start doing rejection.

i been mean to her recently, like the way she treated me....

she always said etc etc did no invite her to wedding, and make her sad... but maybe because she being mean and selfish all along until her friend slowly dissappear?

im tired, i dont know how to counter her.... i enjoyed her as my friend, but the feeling of getting bullied by her is stronger each day... i have no where to go to... except here to voice out my feeling and sadness..

[Melbadaze]

I guess it would be more useful asking yourself what you got out of this friend being in your life?

Theres a book called friends and enermys how we keep people in our lifes that we know we dont really want as friends, but rather they serve a perpurse, we can "hate" them where as if it really was someone we cared deeply for and were kind to us, then we cant "hate" them and we all have a need to love and hate.

[NuckingFutz]

This person is not your friend. You deserve to have friends you can trust and trust must be earned...she hasn't earned your trust. Time to cut ties or she will continue her abusive, manipulative and suspicious behavior.

[Persey]

Originally Posted by Melbadaze

I guess it would be more useful asking yourself what you got out of this friend being in your life?

Theres a book called friends and enermys how we keep people in our lifes that we know we dont really want as friends, but rather they serve a perpurse, we can "hate" them where as if it really was someone we cared deeply for and were kind to us, then we cant "hate" them and we all have a need to love and hate.

Maybe indeed friendship is about using each other...