[HZ3006]

My ex boyfriend has caused a lot of problems since I broke up with him nearly 2 years ago. For a while we still stayed in contact and talked, since I couldn't figure out why I felt like I wanted to break up with him in the first place. After a while I realized what our problem was. He would tell me things in our relationship that I really did not wish to know, like the fact that if he wasn't dating me (at the time) he would ask out my cousin. He also used to say things about the way I looked that hurt my feelings. I never told him while we were dating.
Then when I realized that all that stuff made me angry, and the fact that he told my friend that he wished she didn't exist, I decided it would be best to not even be friends. After a while we became friends again, partly because I felt bad that he didn't have anybody to talk to. There were many things that he'd do, like he'd tell me in excessive detail all about his sex life. So we'd fight a lot and he would cry because he felt lonely without a friend.
I feel bad that he makes me so angry, and he doesn't even understand what he does that bothers me, which makes me feel even worse about getting mad. I've explained to him what he does that makes me mad, but he just says that he doesn't understand or that it makes no sense to him. When I'm around him I turn into someone who isn't me and he always ends up making me furious at some point in every single conversation.
We've been on-and-off friends in the less than 2 years, and now he's telling me he wants to try again, and that he's changed. I feel bad because, again, he really doesn't have anybody and I want to help, but I know I should just give up?
How can I tell him(for the last time) that I don't want to try to be friends anymore without feeling guilty like I deserted him?
Or should I try the alternative, how can I figure out a way to stay friends and not argue?

[amante]

Sometimes dear, you simply have to put the past behind you and realize he's not a good friend for you to have. It sounds as if he is abusive to you verbally, and no one should have to have a friend like that. Just tell him that you cannot talk to him anymore, he probably knows deep down what he is doing to you. just end things with him.

[beachluvr68]

I know how you feel!! I have been going through something similiar. People don't change overnight. If you need someone to talk to I am here.