(nevermind, sorry i have to edit&delete this post, weird feeling, not important)

[A_Long_ways]

The answers are really your own to answer. You said you still have your own personal problems you want to work out. Depression and the break up with your ex. If you feel that these issues would hurt your relationship with the new girl, then deal with them first before you try something with her. You are not being selfish, you're being smart. If you think you can handle those emotions plus all of the things that come with a new relationship, then by all means try something out with her. Just don't overload yourself, depression and a break up are a lot to deal with, I'm going through the same at the moment. I personally wouldn't be ready for another relationship just yet, still sorting out too much in my head to start thinking about someone new.

It's all about what YOU feel that YOU are ready for. If you're not selfish for yourself, who will be? She's not gonna fall off the face of the earth if you feel that you need some more time.

Originally Posted by A_Long_ways

The answers are really your own to answer. You said you still have your own personal problems you want to work out. Depression and the break up with your ex. If you feel that these issues would hurt your relationship with the new girl, then deal with them first before you try something with her. You are not being selfish, you're being smart. If you think you can handle those emotions plus all of the things that come with a new relationship, then by all means try something out with her. Just don't overload yourself, depression and a break up are a lot to deal with, I'm going through the same at the moment. I personally wouldn't be ready for another relationship just yet, still sorting out too much in my head to start thinking about someone new.

It's all about what YOU feel that YOU are ready for. If you're not selfish for yourself, who will be? She's not gonna fall off the face of the earth if you feel that you need some more time.

hey, oh you read my post

yeah i know i should've deal with my issues first before i started something with her. thats why i didnt ask for her number that day. but i cant hold my feelings any longer and eventually asked for her number from a friend, wrong move? i dont know. to be honest, im not ready. but she came at the perfect time that day, and growth feelings between us. we cant lie to our feelings. thanks for replying, it helps. i'll try to talk to her again tomorrow and see what happens next. cause i haven't reply to her text messages.

thanks again!

i finally talk to her. everything must ends. and the last words she said to me is "I REALLY HATE YOU". i feel bad. what have i done. why am i talking here anyway, i've deleted my post, sorry

[lonegael]

Perfect silence, at least you have somewhere to start over from now. You don't have to have done anything for someone to respond like that, honestly. I don't know your story, but I can tell you're hurt. Who wouldn't be? But you can't do more than apologize and move on. From there on in, it's up to her to manage her feelings, not you. Please don't let depression turn this into an excuse to make you beat up on yourself. It hurts, but your'll go on, and it doesn't diminish your worth, really. Huggs.