[No_longer_sane]

Hello, For the purposes of protecting privacy, I will use fake names.

I have a friend called "Lucy". She is the only friend I have left, but she bosses me about all the time, and makes me do stuff for her, all the time, even if it involves me completely humiliating myself, and I do it, because of my depression and the fact that I have no other friends. But she told me that she was going out with "Ben", who is in my form group and who is a pretty cool guy, and me, Lucy and Ben used to hang out together at dinnertimes, and I always used to say to her, "Just tell me if you and Ben want some alone time," And she used to insist that it was fine, and then we were in a classroom one day and she and "Ben" were playing about, and I was lost in my thoughts basically, and ignored the obvious; that they wanted me to leave first so they could kiss, because they cant tell anyone else in the school that they are going out (long story).

After that, I guess I was too friendly with Ben, I didnt like him like that, its just he didnt treat me horribly like everybody else in our school did, and Lucy once said to me; "How horrible would it be if you and ben were going out?" And something like " If ben cheated on me with anyone, even if it was you, I couldnt forgive them ever." (Even though she cheated on Ben multiple times, but he loved her to much to not forgive her)

(Sorry for the length of this)
And Lucy and I were walking to the history corridor a while ago, and she started talking about Ben, and she said "Hes lucky to have me" So I said, "yeah, youre both lucky to have each other." And she said, "What do you mean?" I said "Well hes lucky to have you, and youre lucky to have him." And I didnt realise what Id said because my mind was elsewhere, and now she thinks that I like him in that way, even though I didnt, and so she dumped him to go out with another lad (But she lies all the time, I mean she said she was preganant, then on thursday flew to new york, had it aborted by laser =/ and then flew back WITHIN 4 HOURS. Yeah okay then. Now she reckons shes preganant again with this dude called "Mike"'s baby, but shes suddenly forgot about that, and she kissed this other guy "Steve" right in front of Ben yesterday, and he was really upset and asked me about it, and now has decided hes not talking to her again, and Im not sure wether I still wanna be friends with her or not anymore, and I think I slightly like Ben, and Its all my fault Ben and Lucy broke up and I feel really really guilty that I was so stupid and because of me they areent together anymore...

Thanks for reading my rant x

[lynn P.]

She doesn't sound like a good friend to you or a good G to Ben. There's a saying "with friends like that who needs enemies". She sounds very immature and dishonest. If they're relationship was stable, then that little slip of your tongue wouldn't matter. Don't get caught up in her drama.

To be honest and frank, this girl sounds immature, manipulative, and unstable. She's creating drama in your life that you don't need...and she doesn't seem like a good friend either. You shouldn't have to put up with her garbage. And it most certainly isn't your fault that the two of them are having relationship troubles. What you said was perfectly fine.

Do not let others define you, A friend does not expect you to be a toady.