[stieg]

Yes it's that hateful day for people who not are only single but those who don't have any friends near them including myself. This is the most hateful day of the year and it's sad and depressing watching people buying every item related to valentine's day and giving gifts to their loved ones but for those who have no one it's like a big F.U. to us. I'm still anxious that i'm still a loner and can't find a solution and especially for a day that it's unfair to all loners out there.

[jennaorgana]

i am a lone too dearest stieg.

it bugs me only when people judge me. or when they ask, how do you feel about being alone? do you want to be set up? i can set you up!

thats all. other than that, f it, i love chocolate )

[Eros' Psyche]

I'm sorry to hear that you're upset and lonely.

Me and my b/f have been going through some issues over the past month, and the mere thought of losing him had me bawling my eyes out for weeks. I really though that he was going to leave me.

Things are getting better with us now, although very slowly, but I'm just saying that I know where you're coming from. The best thing you can do, from my own experience, is to be around people you love. Even if it's your parents. I don't consider myself to be SO close with my parents, but over the past month I've been so low and depressed at times, that I couldn't even be alone for more than an hour at a time. So I'd hang with my parents. It really helped, and I got a little bit closer to them in the meantime.

V-Day is my favorite holiday, but really it's just any other day. All the couples you see . . . none of them have perfect relationships. I'm not saying that everyone is miserable and unhappy, but don't let yourself get dragged into thinking that everyone who has someone is happy and content.

Don't worry; it'll be over in a couple of days and then you'll forget all about it. Good luck!

[Yoda]

I think I prefer being a loner on Valentine's day than being in a relationship and being ignored on that day.

[Eros' Psyche]

Sorry to hear that you're lonely.

I've been going through relationships issues with my b/f over the past month. For a while I really convinced myself that he was going to leave me, and during that time I bawled my eyes out for weeks. I didn't want to be alone. I wanted to be, and stay, with him because I love him so, so much. And even though he's NOT going to break up with me and we're starting up again slowly, I still know where you're coming from. The pain from being alone is just as bad as the pain from the fear of losing what you have.

From my experience, it really helps to hang out around people who love you, even if it's your parents. Sounds corny, but it worked for me. I reached such a low that I barely ate and hung out with my parents for a lot of the time because I couldn't bear to be alone. Not like I have a strong relationship with them, either. It's not bad, but it's not perfect. But still, for some reason, being in their company helped me take my mind off my b/f. And it was nice at times. I feel as if I did get closer with them.

Also, don't be fooled when you see couples. Not to sound like a downer, but not everyone in a relationship is happy. True, some people are happy in their relationships, but there are some who aren't.

Don't worry. V-Day will come and go before you know it. Just keep yourself busy and in the company of others. Anything that will distract you. Just don't sit home and let yourself dwell on this. Good luck!

[FeelingHopeful]

Valentines Day is my fave Holiday, Because I always love to give my family and friends presents, I dont want anything, I just like to give them, But while i still like the holiday, I am so depressed this yr, Im dreading it and kinda hope it goes quick. Maybe i will just sleep alot.

[Catherine2]

Originally Posted by Yoda

I think I prefer being a loner on Valentine's day than being in a relationship and being ignored on that day.

total agreement, Yoda...
My home situation is an unusual one, frankly it can be a PITA at times.
Long ago I let go of any thoughts of it being any different.
Finding my own ways to acknowledge some holidays has been interesting

[Rhapsody]

One day at a time... just like lovers do when their heart is broken and that day is right around the corner.

[NuckingFutz]

Alone. I do not feel love for anyone at the moment due to depression and anger issues. I just do not understand people anymore.

[DfendrOfEmilysHeart]

Maybe we could have a hosted chat for it ? if that's not too depressing ?

[A_Long_ways]

Not sure how I'll spend the day, though I'm sure it's not exactly going to be joyful.

[KDlady]

like warm septembers idea !

[trance]

it's just another day...

Does Valentine's Day honor the landing of the Mayflower?

[lynn P.]

To answer your question Steig - be happy your money is not flying out of your pockets lol. I don't like the commercialism and pressures that come with Valentines Day and every other holiday. I went to my local drug store yesterday to get my daughter her class valentines - again pressure to comply with everyone else. So I'm there looking for those individual chocolates and guess what was on the shelves - easter candy - how ridiculous is that!!! It's all about spending money and competing with what we think we should do. I feel sorry mostly for the men - can they live up to the pressure? Will their women be happy with what they come up with or be disappointed. How many women(not all) compare what they get to their friends gifts and get mad at their partners for it. Did you know the prices of chocolate and roses are sky high just because it's Valentines Day - same thing with dinner on that day. I think people should be smart and rebel - have a home cooked meal at home with some chocolate covered strawberries. Even strawberries will be sky high this weekend. I just don't like the commercialism and the ways it makes us feel forced to spend money.

[0ldsoul]

I hear you. On those days, wether its your birthday, or new years, etc, maybe use that time to stop and just do something you want? I was alone on newyears and my bday, along with most occasions. I said to heck with it. On my bday I had a craving for fresh baked bread and crab legs, lol, so with those and a new movie I just relaxed and treated myself. Ask yourself if there is anything simple that you have had a craving for or wanted to do but lack time? Just ideas

[lynn P.]

Originally Posted by 0ldsoul

I hear you. On those days, wether its your birthday, or new years, etc, maybe use that time to stop and just do something you want? I was alone on newyears and my bday, along with most occasions. I said to heck with it. On my bday I had a craving for fresh baked bread and crab legs, lol, so with those and a new movie I just relaxed and treated myself. Ask yourself if there is anything simple that you have had a craving for or wanted to do but lack time? Just ideas

Great idea ((Oldsoul))

[KathyM]

Hi stieg

To me, Valentine's Day is just a marketing ploy to benefit the card, flower, chocolate, etc. industry. We buy into the idea because it sounds so lovely - i.e., a day of sheer bliss, knowing you are loved. Yeah, right. It looks to me like competition - i.e., "He better get me something GOOD!" or "Look what SHE got for V-day!" or "HAHA ladies - my man loves me more than yours....neener, neener, neener!" Men rarely get anything, lol.

Is it really that fun to go out to dinner on Valentine's day? Try getting a good table at the best restaurant in town.

Is it really that fun to spend all the money you have, including the rent money, on a nice dress to attend that fancy dinner in the event you do get the table?

Is it really that fun to see your man spend all the money he has on the dinner, then having to starve for the rest of the month?

Many, many moons ago, (before we were married) my husband took me to a fancy restaurant - even rented a fancy car to make it special. The meal was really good (and really expensive), and everyone looked really great. No one in the restaurant was impressed with the expensive dress I bought - they were too focused on their own appearance.

I felt horrible when I found out later my husband had spent every penny he had that night because he was pressured by everyone else to "make it a good one." He didn't know at the time I'm not impressed with shiny new objects and expensive luxury. I prefer a walk in the woods with him, or a good home-cooked meal by us at home together.

It's just a day. Pamper yourself.

[ADoseofReality]

i just sit around and eat candi i buy 4 myself becuz no 1 is good enuff 4 me

[slowinmi]

I agree with KathyM. My husband and I tried to do things like go to dinner and stuff for a couple years, but soon decided there was no reason we had to do it on Valentine's Day. I guess I'm a bit of a rebel and hate being told what I SHOULD do. Now on V-Day, we have a standing agreement NOT to get each other a card or anything. We just treat it like another day.