Difficult relationships

I thought this blog on

Is Your Difficult Relationship a Problem, or an Attempt at a Solution?

to be interesting. Does it apply to anyone here?

It use to. Then I met a psychopath on crack and because I got to know him, everything became clear as a bell. Now if someone does not treat me well, I am out of there!

I think the article makes a lot of sense. I think many dysfunctional relationships stem from our subconscience is trying to solve deep seated issues.

The children trying to "fix" parents one sounds just like me. My dad has always been an alcoholic and I have spent much of my life trying to "fix" him. So I know I pick men with issues in hopes that I can fix them.

Most people get into cyclical bad relationships because on some level of their psyche, they think that they are a bad person who desrves to be punished. I think folks should count the number of possitive affirmations that they give themselves a day and weigh that against the negative affirmations. The ratio of good to bad is astounding.

An interesting blog.

A few of the listed possible reasons are realities for me. What does it boil down to in cases like mine?? I'd presume that many people do have more than 1 or 2 of the listed reasons.

Good thread, I have to say though and I am not sure if anyone else feels like this but the fact that I have had an abusive childhood means that based on statistics, psychology evaluations etc, I am more likely to end up in an abusive/destructive relationship myself. As it so happens, all the relationships I have been in have been destructive but I blame part of that on the fact that is what is the norm for someone in my shoes, in fact I now expect negativity in a relationship so I make concious effort to avoid getting romantically involved with anyone. All the psychological data just helps to reinforce the belief that mostly abused kids get in to abusive relationships.