[Amanda_1981]

Today I found out the true meaning of a 'real' friend. Someone who I thought was a true friend hurt me so much that I am still crying at the awful things she said. I don't want to go into details at the moment, but I am just so hurt that someone who I trusted could be so horrible and mean. I never ever in a million years thought anyone could hurt me this much

When I left my first husband the first thing he did was invite my sister to the house the very sister who I had not spoken to for many years because she was married to my abuser. She went so did my younger sister who I cared for and another sister who I also cared for, I was so very very upset. My younger sister said sorry to me and wished she had never gone so did my other sister. But that was long after the event.

I didn't speak to them for many years over that plus a few other things tied into my ex husband. They hurt me deeply, I felt traumatised to be honest and it took me months to recover. However I did recover and so will you. I am very very sorry you are in that place right now.

Sorry this happened to you, Amanda.

[thine_self_untrue]

It is the people who are the closest to our hearts that can hurt them the most. I'm sorry for your hurt.

[lynn P.]

I'm very sorry you were hurt (((Amanda)). I hope you let her know how hurt you are rather than keeping it inside. I don't know if you think this can be resolved or not. I hope you feel better.

[Amanda_1981]

Thank you (((((((Tishie, Thebyzan, thineself, and Lynn)))))))))))) I am feeling better now and realize that I always knew she was a really mean cold person but I always brushed it aside... I have now been talking to other people who are saying that she did the exact same hurtful things to them as well. I let this person know that I was upset and spoke up for myself and am now focusing on the real TRUE friends that I do have and have come to the conclusion that some people are just not very nice people and unfortnately in life one will eventually come across someone like that. I am working on building up my confidence and self esteem and learning how to be more assertive and communicative (is that a word? lol) when I feel like someone has upset me as opposed to keeping it all inside and just letting the issue slide as I have done in the past. One day at a time, is now my new motto for life

[lynn P.]

I'm glad you feel better today and you're certainly thinking about this in a very healthy way - good for you!! I'm also glad you stuck up for yourself and told her how you feel. I used to be the same way - holding things inside and this made it much worse for me because I would think about it over and over again. When you deal with it, at that moment like you did - it's easier to recover and feel closure. You did the right thing and are handling the best way.

[thine_self_untrue]

Good for you, Amanda!