[outsider27]

Ummmmm, don't really know how to put this in words. A few months ago my dad wrote a inapporiate letter to my wife. I confronted him about it on the phone with some not so very nice words.
Since then my dad has been absent not only from my life but from his 2 grandchildren to. It's really hard when my 4 yr. old asks about grandpa.

I asked my dad why he wrote the letter, he said " I don't know". Great answer. My mom even swept it under the rug. I tried calling, and even going over to the house to see him but he won't pick up the phone. If he knows I'm coming over he'll leave before I get there. If we make amens it'll still be awkard. What should I do ?????????

[sabby]

I'm sorry to hear about the letter and the trouble you are having with your dad.

Is this something completely out of the ordinary for your dad to do? Have your dad and wife had a good relationship up until now? How old is your dad? If this is out of the ordinary and they did have a good relationship, I wonder if there is something physically going on with your dad. When was his last physical? Does he go to the doctor regularly?

He may be avoiding you now because he's embarrassed. How about writing a letter to him in a kindly way asking to speak with him face to face. Tell him his grandchildren are asking about him and miss him.

I think it's great that you took a stand for your wife. It's as it should be. I'm just really concerned that something is going on with your dad as he is aging and needs to be checked by a physician.

I wish you all well and hope you can figure out what's going on!