[yeahso1985]

so at least once a month normaly when im starting my period i start to feel unwanted and useless. <Br>
once i start to feel this way i normaly start crying or at least my eyes start to water just a little and my husband sees this and hes like omg not this again. <BR>
after that then hes distant and not wanting to talk cuz he doesnt want to fight. im glad he doesnt want to fight cuz i dont want to fight either but i still cant help but cry.
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i dont know why i start crying, most of the time its something so small its not even worth the tears. i just get upset so easy.
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i wish my husband wouldnt get so distant when i get up set. ive asked him to hold me or to try to make me feel better but he just thinks no matter what he does we will fight.
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so normaly after i start to get up set i cry and then i start to say stuff like im not wanted or im worthless. my husband does nothing to make me feel like this at all so it must be me. i normaly talk and cry for at least 2 hours on how im not good enough and how im messing up his life. its always me talking he says nothing. sometimes he will say no you dont.
<BR>these flights happen at least once a month and are always the same.
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i dont know what to do any ideas would help.

[Rhapsody]

What you are going through is normal for females that have regular menstrual cycles and unhealed emotional wounds.... the two get mixed up in PMS once a month and out comes the "no one loves me monster" and the "over flowing tear monster" -

What I suggested is that you talk to your doctor about getting on medicine that can help relieve these awful symptoms in females... I take Celexa, but have also used Sarafem.

[RomanSunburn]

I was thinking the same thing as Rhapsody.

I started birth control to help control my mood swings that came around the time of my period, and it helped a lot. Though, now I have some other issues going on and am going to see a doctor soon about maybe starting a mood stabilizer.

You could also try talking to your husband when you're calm and it's not "that time" and simply tell him what you would like him to do when you get upset. I've done that with my boyfriend, and he seems to appreciate being told what would be most helpful when I get upset, because he wants to help me just doesn't know how.

Best wishes
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Ro

[Rhapsody]

Originally Posted by RomanSunburn

You could also try talking to your husband when you're calm and it's not "that time" and simply tell him what you would like him to do when you get upset.

Good ideal... I did this with m husband and it seemed to work before I was lucky enough to find Celexa (and) I also placed a BIG SAD FACE on the calender to help warn the guys of the pending week ahead....

[RomanSunburn]

Haha! That's great! When my boyfriend and I eventually move in together, I'll probably start doing the same! Or maybe an angry face, cause I usually get really irritable more than sad... Hehe, that really made me smile!

[yeahso1985]

thanks. i was thinking thats what was wrong but i needed someone esle to say it!