[northanna_2001]

I don't know if I'm in the right forum. let me know if I'm not. My problem is that I have ongoing sadness about being rejected over a lifetime from my family of origin. My mother will call me occasionally; but my sister and brother never do. I have made calls to them, emails to them and they never respond. Both live in the same town as my mother and live close to my mother. I wish I knew why they don't choose to be in my life. Looking over our childhood, I don't think anything went wrong; so I'm not understanding... and nobody will tell me what their issue is with me.

Hello, northanna_2001. Sometimes, there is no answer that makes any sense. You have done your part. Not much more you can do.

[claygenius]

Do you have a family (though not biological) that you can use for support? I know that when my family and I were having troubles, I found comfort from those around me. Sometimes, we can work through problems with people right away and other times you have to allow the other people to figure out some things before they are ready to work out the issues with you. I guess what I'm trying to say, is maybe they are just not ready. But like the last post said, you have done your part for now and you need to do what you can to find comfort where you are at this time. Hang in there

[Slothrop]

It might help to address the sadness itself (e.g., talk to a therapist)...you may not be able to change your family, but you can change how you react to their neglect.

[NuckingFutz]

Have this problem with my family. A couple of my sisters I hold dear and although they live far away and we do not get to talk much, we are in our in each others hearts. I did pose the question you did to my old therapist, she stated the answer that you got above. We just cannot know if they are not forthcoming. That leaves us the job of healing and finding our way to our own kind of closure. being on this site will help. Healing through this is a process not a destination. Keep sharing on here and good luck to you.