Difficulties communicating and confronting problems. (long story)

Hi my name is Danica and I am 15 years old. I had a panic attack during one of my classes and an ambulance arrived to check me out. They said I was fine, however my parents, who had arrived earlier, decided to take me to the hospital to check me out. My hands and arms were shaking (that's kind of how the panic attack started) when I got there. This was my first time being a patient in a hospital, however I did really like hospitals. I got out with a diagnosis of acute onset weakness.

I was referred to a psychiatrist by the social worker at the hospital. I saw this psychiatrist and had personality and IQ testing. Throughout my treatment my mom and dad objected to it because of it's cost and, to them, questionable method of help. They found out my IQ was high, but this lead to possible detachment from peers. Also my personality showed possible anger issues and high vulnerability. She suggested bipolar or depression. Along with this she helped me with relationship issues

I finally caved to my parents and stopped the treatment. Now I tell all my problems to by boyfriend, who has been there from the start. My mom is really opposed to it, I can seriously tell. My dad accepted it and lets me go out usually. My mom constantly tells me to tell her about my problems despite me knowing that it won't help. I've tried before and it doesn't work.

I'm really sensitive and can cry easily, my psychiatrist said, during a family meeting, she can tell why I do. My dad is really extreme when it comes to dealing with problems. He yells and gives really irrational solutions. One example is when I mentioned my brother practically owning the Xbox, despite it being both ours, since it's in his room he raised his voice really loud and suggested to just throw it out. I started crying and my psychiatrist made that observation.

Usually when my parents talk to me I just sit and listen then leave. This is because, I think, ever time I try to defend myself or say something It gets used against me, or I simply get yelled at.

I'm not sure what to do, even my boyfriend tells me he is worried that I don't stick up for myself. Any thoughts?

So sorry this is happening, Pengygirl. Your parents appear to need professional help more than you do. Can the Xbox be moved so that you have it in your room for an agreed upon time before being moved back to your brother's room for the same length of time and back and forth like that?

As far as sticking up for yourself, it seems rather futile if all your parents want to do is yell at you.

Does your school have a counselor you can talk to? I wish I had better ideas, but can only wish you luck.

Pengygirl,

As the dad of two teenagers and one being 15, I can honestly tell you that "yelling" at them only does one thing...squashes self-esteem! And that is something that a caring parent DOES NOT want to do.

My vote is for the BF's idea!