[MayaniiAlarum Hay]

My parents aren't divorced,I have always lived with them but I was raised by my grandmother therefore I don't have a good relationship with my parents,I'm not close to them.I know my mother loves me but I think my father doesn't love me because he is not an affectionate dad.He never hugs and never kisses me.He is a cold person,when I hug him he doesn't hug me back.
The more I age the less affectionate he gets and it's weird I don't know why he does this,it's not because I'm 16 years old that I don't need my dad's affection.I remenber that when I was a child he used to hug me.Well,maybe he is not affectionate because he is shy.Me and my dad don't talk much to each other,whenever I'm alone with him there will be a deep silence.It seems that I don't need him for anything,whenever I have a problem,when I'm needing money or when I have to ask for permission to someone I ask for my mother because in my house both of my parents work but my mother makes more money than my father and also she is the boss here in my house everybody have to obey her.However,she is a tyrant.One of the things that makes me angry at my parents is that my father does everything that my mother orders,it's weird I've never seen a husband being so obedient to his wife but I've seen the opposite.In our society it's not normal to a husband always obey his wife.He acts like he really loves her,they have been married for a long time and they get along very well and for me this is weird too because I always see couples getting divoced including my friends' parents therefore I feel that my parents' relationsip is not normal.My dad is obedient to my mother and he always say that he thinks that mothers are sacred because they are the bearers of life,they are the ones that give birth and therefore they deserve to be highly respected.Whenever I'm shouting at my mum or when we are fighting my dad intrudes himfelf in the fight to defend my mum and to make me stop cursing her.My dad was abandoned by his father and by his mother and maybe is because of that that he is clingy to my mum.I think my dad has a mother complex.I''m sure he has a mother complex!!I'm serious,believe me: My dad loves my mother more than he loves his daughters!Yes,he does! I don't know what to do.Have you ever seen a dad who loves the wife(the mother of his daughters) more than he loves his daughters?Have you ever seen a husband who treat his wife so well?My family is not a normal family!! Help!

[Belle1979]

How does this relate with you other forum?

[marjan]

I just post a reply to your other thread.....Honesty, I think there is nothing wrong with parents be good together and love each other....my parents were together for 40 years till my dad passed away!
you got to understand that there is a big difference of the love that your dad has towards you and the love that your dad has towards your mother.....your dad's love towards you is called "unconditional love" versus his love for your mother which is a "conditional love"....
people are different in their relationships and showing affections....however, if you feel this way, you should talk to your parents.....
and take it easy.....
M.

[Elysium]

I think that you have gotten a lot of good advice and suggestions, from a lot of different folks here at PC.

My best suggestion is to talk with someone like a guidance counselor or find a therapist who can help you work all these things out. We can offer support, but we can only do so much.

Take care.

[MayaniiAlarum Hay]

My dad is cold hearted,serious and rude,my mother is authoritarian,strict and aggressive I think that's why they get along so well. My father always pressure me and my sister to be like our mother. My dad thinks that my mother is so pefect.
Whenever I star a fight with my mom my dad gets very angry at me to the point that he would hit me if I keep the fight going on and once he hit me just because I had started a fight with my mom.
I'm sure that my father has a mother complex because of the way he acts towards my mother and because he was abandoned by his parents when he was a child. My father thinks that mothers are sacred because they are the bearers of life,they are the ones that give birth and therefore they deserve to be highly respected.is it normal to think like this?

[Belle1979]

I don't see anything wrong with thinking mothers are sacred - personally when/if I have children I would like to still be able to hold that respect in my partners eyes.
My mother is wonderful and special and I can't praise her enough - but it took me many years to realise what she was and what she had given me.

[jenkins09]

I am a dad and I can tell you that I wouldnt allow my kids do disrespect their mom. My parenting style doesnt involve physical punishment because I was abused as a child, but I dont think its abnormal that your dad doesnt let you disrespect your mom.

I read your other post and really think you should seek the advice of a qualified therapist for some of the things you discussed. Do you have a school counselor that you trust that you could speak with? I wish you well.