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May 04, 2010, 12:25 AM
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I'm planning way in advance here - but our 10th anniversary of our 1st date is August 1st. I want to do something to celebrate, but we don't have a lot of money. We live in a pretty small town with not much fun stuff to do.
It's a Sunday, I asked him to get the whole day off work. We could get a babysitter. Our marriage really needs to reconnect romantically. We love each other, but there is NO romance. We've been dating for 10 years, married for 5. Ideas?
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May 04, 2010, 12:34 AM
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Do you two like to do outsdoorsy things? How about going on a hike in a beautiful setting? Or a bike ride. Bring a picnic lunch and a bottle of wine?
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May 04, 2010, 01:00 AM
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Well....it's hard to tell what he wants. Yet any time I mention the word divorce he gets mad like it will NEVER happen (I mentioned it as a "what if" scenario in regards to setting up a bank account situation). But we're in a sexless marriage that is pretty much affectionless too, and he really doesn't give a dmn.
I am to blame for a lot of it, I will admit. I have made a LOT of mistakes. I'm still paying for them. I guess I just don't know how to make things right.
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May 04, 2010, 01:15 AM
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If he’s taking the whole day off Sunday, how about having a family member take care of the kids Saturday night and Sunday and spend the night in a hotel. None of the day to day distractions and you can veg in the pool and hot tub. Just together time alone to relax?
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May 04, 2010, 05:26 PM
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I agree with the outdoors idea. If you can go to a state/national park or anything that is close to that and take a walk that is always nice. Beautiful scenery, quite time alone with just you two, maybe a little pick-nick, sounds good to me.
I also like the hotel idea if you live in a more urban area. The problem I can see with that is if you are limited on funds a nice hotel can cost quite a bit. However, if you can swing it I think it would also provide for a nice little get away for you two. It might help if you would list some of the things that are available in your area and possibly some of your likes for things to do. |
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