[0171292]

my boyfriend left me, my friends all have new friends and i'm sort of like the outsider. i don't know what's happened, when i was at school i was the happiest person in the world. i was actually quite popular, and i was always known as the "little bit strange but funny and happy" one. now i'm not known as anything to anybody, except some random people that see me about as the "weirdo loner that always wears that stupid coat no matter what weather it is" one. i look around on facebook and stuff and see pictures of everybody with their group of friends having fun together. it makes me sick when i see pictures of my old best friend with all his new friends. i hate change, i just want to go back to school again. it's been almost a year since i left and i'm still not over it. i've not done anything wrong, so why doesn't anybody want to know me anymore? am i that rubbish that i've just been forgotten about?

[marjan]

don't look at those happy pics at FB...they are all faked....people put smiles on their faces when they take pictures....and you don't really know what is going on in their mind!!!!

You will find new good friends....and even the old friends will always come back to your life.....I just had lunch with my childhood friend.....world is so small....we found each other here in another country after 10 years apart....we used to go to the same school from elementary till high school....good relationship and friendship always find its way back!

plus, nobody looks at you as a loner except yourself! I'm the same, sometimes (specially, these days) I think I'm a total loser because I'm not married or not being able to establish a relationship or choose a home for myself....and I know that's just the thought and feeling I create for myself...nobody thinks that way about me except me!

with love
Marjan

[Sameera]

Yeah, looking at pictures of people who look happy usually isn't much of an indicator of how they really feel. The pictures are taken at a time when they are feeling more happy, they put a smile on for the photo, and just generally it is all done in a way that makes the picture look good. Just because a few photos were taken at a good time doesn't mean that these people all have great lives.

Sorry to hear that your going through a rough time. Don't lose hope though, we all have these difficult times in our lives. Try to stay positive as much as possible and get out, do things you like and try to meet a few people.

If you just sit around and let your situation get you down even more than things will only get worse. You will become even more depressed because of it and then feel even less like going out and doing the things you love, meeting people and trying to get life going back in a good direction.

I hope things improve for you very soon, good luck.

Part of what you are dealing with is grieving, numbers. Hang in there.

[0171292]

thank you for your support everybody, but i always seem to do this. every now and then i'll have a massive rage where everything is wrong. then the next day i'll be completely fine, if not really happy. then i totally look at things the opposite way - yesterday i was just like, "oh ex, i love you! PLEASE take me back!" and now i'm just like "make your mind up, jerk" - tomorrow i'll probably be all over him again. my emotions are always either low, extremely low, or average-happy.

[DfendrOfEmilysHeart]

((((((((((((((((((((((( Emily ))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you feel ok soon

[NuckingFutz]

Here is something that may help. Everytime you catch yourself saying or doing something negative, stop the thought with a positive one. Make this a goal. In 20 days it will become a habit. THEN look around and tell us how you feel. Hang in there.

How are you doing, 0171292?

[marjan]

Originally Posted by NuckingFutz

Here is something that may help. Everytime you catch yourself saying or doing something negative, stop the thought with a positive one. Make this a goal. In 20 days it will become a habit. THEN look around and tell us how you feel. Hang in there.

oh....I love this....I'm going to try it too....20 days, it is
thanks NuckingFutz