[just_a _lil_gal]

i used to be a very happy gal. im with my bf from 5 yrs. i love him very much, he also lovs me, deep down i know that. but the thing is he is not that much attached lately. we meet once evry week. ssometimes we evn meet after two weeks. i miss him horrebly and i alws want to spend more time with him.

but he is alws busy with work or his band or other things, i feel he doesnt feel the urge to see me, he even calls me once a day. earlier he used to call 4-5 times but nw it went down to 1. i cnt say anything about this. or he will say, i dont have to express what i feel. n calling and seeing each other doesnt mean our love is deep.

but it relly makes me feel ignored and neglected. i feel so alone and cant even go out with my friends. i just want to be with him more often, i used to say that to him earlier but it made him more annoyed , so i stoped saying anything. but what can i do , i alws feel so upset

[Soul Quake]

Be firm and tell him that yes, you do need to express your feelings because this is starting to affect you and in turn the relationship. It seems that he has full control not only in terms of how often you see each other, but what is worthy of discussion and what isn't.

What do you mean you "can't even go out with friends"?

[just_a _lil_gal]

i "can t" means earlier he used to be very obsessd about me going out with anyone, even my family or friends. now he is more flexible and ok, but i am already mold myself in that .

he is really gud to me when im happy and ok, when ever im sad or upset he just cant stand me ! why! should i suppress my emotions !

when ever i tried to talk with him about that, he seems to get annoyed with this talks! when we are together things are really great, but the moment we split up, he seems like an unknown person, doesnt call me, doesnt initiate any dates. im really getting upset day by day

Frankly, just_a _lil_gal, this guy seems like trouble to me. Are you willing to accept a relationship where you are always expected to submit to his wishes, and like it?

[sewsweetie28]

I agree with TheByz! You will probally have to accept it or leave him, from what you say it don't see him changing. It's a hard realization to make but don't you deserve to be in a mutually loving and affectionat relationship?