[BatsAndButterflies]

I'm 18 and I feel like I have missed out on the best parts of high school. I've never had a real relationship with anyone... if thats even possible in high school... I've never even kissed a boy. My friends make fun sometimes, but it doesn't bother me cuz I know they are just playing, but at the same time it sucks knowing I've had so many chances, but freaked out and broke up any time I saw it coming. I feel silly that this bothers me, but I have to get past it eventually...

[isadora]

Im sorry to hear that. Maybe your waiting for the perfect guy enjoy life here's a quote that i like "Life is like an icecream enjoy it before it melts" good luck take care (:

[Perna]

I had similar issues in high school. Learning to date and get to know someone of the other sex literally takes practice; it's not something anyone is born knowing how to do. Some people are shyer than others or have a harder time judging when to "jump in" (like learning to jump rope :-) but it's just a learning situation, like learning math, can be emotionally scary but is doable, like you say, you'll get past it eventually.

You can't really miss out on anything in your life as your life has its own course and may/may not be like other peoples. Deciding you should have been dating/kissing boys is like deciding you should have chosen to go to X school in 7th grade or something; you didn't so it's not part of your particular life.

You should not define your life by comparing it to others. Because your experience in high school was perhaps atypical does not make you somehow defective. Your time will come.

Be well.

[CindyLuWho]

Let's see... If you live to 80, you've been alive less than 1/5 of your life. Be kinder to yourself. You have oodles of time.

I am 52 and just this last year got into my first healthy relationship.

Trust me, being single is better than being in a bad relationship.

[BatsAndButterflies]

Thank you very much for this

Good luck, BatsAndButterflies.

[spacecase]

I'm in the exact same position and it is tearing me up thinking about it, and I'm almost 19. Well, I've kissed a boy, but it's overated. I'm sure it's a much better experience when it's the right guy. Anyway, I thought I would change and experience so much more within my first year of college, but I may as well be the same person I was a year ago. Sorry, wish I could be more help. Byzantine gave good advise. Maybe people like you and me need to try to be more spontaneous.

[spacecase]

And oh yeah, remember that you're not the only one out there. Also, your only 18. You have plenty of time to have fun.

[BatsAndButterflies]

Thank you so much!

[Evening]

I'm 22 and never been in a relationship, never been on a date, never kissed anyone, so you have no reason to worry just yet! But I will admit it can definitely be hard, I tend to keep it a secret now because I am embarrassed and don't need the questions of why have I never had a relationship/am I a lesbian/do I want to be set up with someone/have I ever done this/have I ever done this/have I ever done this, etc.. It's really not a story I want to get into, you know? I don't even talk about it on here because I'm too ashamed of how I feel.
So don't stress just yet. If you feel your relationship issues are caused by something more, then get some help if you can. I wish I had, maybe I wouldn't be as terrified as I am now. Save yourself from ending up like me!!!