So, I'm hiding the fact that I smoke from my boyfriend

I don't think he would understand that I smoke it for inspiration. I've learned (the hard way) how to be able to stop smoking after one hit, and now it just opens the door to an endless amount of ideas. Such poetry was never before said so beautifully and powerfully. I mean, I can write great poetry normally, it just takes longer, with weed, it's like I'
m able to cross a wall quicker. Especially after I talked to him one time, it seems he's pretty closed-minded to the idea. Total square. But the more I think of it, he's just a hypocrit. Sometimes he drinks too much, even though he claims to not drink too much,. and he doesn't, but you'd think he'd be able to control himself more? I suspect that he used to be an alcoholhic and just is not telling me. And so he said, ver batim, "I don't like that, I have no experience with that, Drinking is fine, because I do it, but it would really hurt me to know that you're drinking, so if you do, just don't tell me. " WTF? Am I the only one feeling I've been put in an uncomfortable position? Am I being mind ****ed, (sorry, just saw Get him to the greek the other night) because I've already been in a controlling feather walking relationship, so sometimes I can get to paranoid.

I don't think he would understand that I smoke it for inspiration. I've learned (the hard way) how to be able to stop smoking after one hit, and now it just opens the door to an endless amount of ideas. Such poetry was never before said so beautifully and powerfully. I mean, I can write great poetry normally, it just takes longer, with weed, it's like I'
m able to cross a wall quicker. Especially after I talked to him one time, it seems he's pretty closed-minded to the idea. Total square. But the more I think of it, he's just a hypocrit. Sometimes he drinks too much, even though he claims to not drink too much,. and he doesn't, but you'd think he'd be able to control himself more? I suspect that he used to be an alcoholhic and just is not telling me. And so he said, ver batim, "I don't like that, I have no experience with that, Drinking is fine, because I do it, but it would really hurt me to know that you're drinking, so if you do, just don't tell me. " WTF? Am I the only one feeling I've been put in an uncomfortable position? Am I being mind ****ed, (sorry, just saw Get him to the greek the other night) because I've already been in a controlling feather walking relationship, so sometimes I can get to paranoid.

You know drinking is much more dangerous than some pot... lol btw a vaporizer can get you really baked and it's not bad on the lungs :]

But I would just tell him... talk to him about the facts and pros and cons of if and then compare it to alcohol. Before I started dating my bf I was ignorant and against marijuana cause all the negative publicity it gets, but when I learned more about it and it's pros and cons I tried it and now I pretty much smoke all the time lol. Especially when I paint and sing and want to write and read philosophical books. =D

I'd just talk to him and educate him and have him try it. Alcohol is much worse considering you can die and become violent from that crap, especially much worse since you lose inhibition and common sense when you're ********* lol...

Hello, Lab. Is your friend suggesting you may only do what he does? If so you might ask him to provide you with a list of verbotens. Or, you might want to challenge him. You will quit the weed if he quits the booze.

Double standards are so arrogant.

It's illegal and it's a form of self-medicating and escaping reality.
He gets to choose his own values because he is a separate person.
Could be having a gf who isn't honest is another thing he is square about.

Were you smoking when you posted this?

yes, just a lil bit

Well, we have like this creative corner forum. So if you need some place to put this stuff down, that'd be a good place. ,n I know you are looking at my tail...go ahead, try and grab it.

I wanna grab your tail...lol...then I would have a piece of tail...lol...

sorry...I've been stoned for most of my life now and it is a very creative inducing drug...but then what makes sense when you're stoned doesn't always make sense when you're straight...just like being with someone you have to hide such things from...oh btw started when I was 16 and I'm 50 now...keep on puffing...keep on smoking...keep on keeping on...and keep on choking...lol...I can see thru the smoke at a clearer day when I can walk alone without needing to be stoned...sorry...babbling...tell him the truth...if he doesn't like it tell him to get with the program or get lost...oh if it were only that easy eh...lol...

I don't smoke regularly anmore. When I did, it was really more off and on for a handful of years. Then I got chest pains, quite for several years, with maybe a hand ful of hits in- between. Now I'll maybe do it once a month- and just a lil bit, like one or two hits amt. I don't get messed up. It's not I'm some raving alcoholic or perma-stoner that's in denial. I know it can be hard to tell across the waves of the internet when we're not always clear and detailed, as we do want to maintain a feeling of anonymisity even though it's sometimes hard while making friends. It's a conflicting feeling. I thought it would be ok, because the warning I saw was about being intoxicated (of any variety) while in a live chat. So posts are different. They're glimses into moments of time, simply that. But of course if you're suicidal or dealing with someother affliction in live chat, it's ok. SO please I hope that I'm not in trouble for posting a while after taking a small hit. I was merely relaxed. I'm younger, but still way too old to being told what to do. Thank you all for the nice comments. =)

I would tell him. He'll find out eventually right. And the sooner you come clean the better he may take it. Discuss with him the pros and cons, then compare it to drinking pros and cons. If he can't handle the truth, well maybe he should hit the road. Doesn't sound like you plan to change your habits anytime soon, so maybe it is better to split?

LabLover,

I bet your just as creative without the pot. It sort of comes off as an excuse to smoke. If your okay with what you are doing, then why not be honest about it? your an adult and can make your own choices, so if your okay with it, why the dishonesty? and dont put it on your boyfriend because he has nothing to do with it.

If it makes you happy, it should make him happy.

I would tell him. I seen a post on the last page abuot it being illegal. I don't know how it was meant but I took it as sarcastic (even though I think very highly of the poster) I don't agree with what they said. Yes it is illegal and it may be self medicating. But is'nt Xnanx, Valium, Vicodin, Kolonipin and those things just as bad? I mean, look at the addictiveness of the above mentioned meds. They are highly addictive. I smoked weed for about 10 years. I quit because I was tired of spending money on it. And the doc gave me Xanax for my anxiety issues (the reason I was smokng in the first place). Well I was on 3 pills a day they were.5 mgs. I took them on an as needed basis. I found that I was addicted to them. So I decided to quit taking them. I layed on my couch for 3 days in a fog and had some mild hallucinating. When I quit smoking pot, I did'nt have any withdrawl symptoms. I wanted one for about a day then it just kind of went away. I drank alchohol very heavily for 3 years. I quit that and had shakes, vomiting, chills, digestive problems. Not to mention the peptic ulcers it gave me. Anyway,,,,pot is safer than alchohol. Pot should be legal. And there is nothing wrong with smoking it. Here's a link that will help you when you explain to your boyfriend http://www.saferchoice.org/content/view/24/53/

Good Luck

Update: I've quit for good. I've slowly weaned myself to the point where it's no fun anymore, plus I've always had baby lungs (my words, probably not true) and my chest doesn't feel right for days after smoking anyways. So it's not just for the sake of my relationship, but also for my health. I'll still with the occasional drink or two.