What Not to Say to Me if I Put a Roof Over Your Head...

I think we are all very proud of you Ms ((((((((Futz))))))))

Rhian

Ms. Futz,

Still thinking of you...

I am really proud of you for sticking up for yourself.

I'm so proud of you....You did a right decision, don't doubt about it even for a second....
I had kinda same situation with my ex-husband....he chose money over me and packed his stuff and left....of course, he didn't have anybody to give him ride to his friend's home....I had to do that....and the whole ride to downtown Toronto, I was crying....
Next day, he called back....crying, begging me to come back....I think he just wanted the comfort of the home that's it....I knew he would not change....I forgave him so many times and so many promises and nothing has changed....so, this time, I stayed on my words...It's been more than four years since then, I still don't regret about that day.....and he still emails me and tells me such a mistake he made!!!!
All I wanted was a husband who share his income with me....not me paying for everything....he refused to open even a joint account with me....he was refusing even to sleep in the same bed with me or kiss me....now he regrets about all those childish behavior....
and I'm so proud to let him go....but it was a rough time for me....couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, so much emotional roller coaster....glad that it's done!
Stay strong and don't look back....this guy is a total waste....lucky you that you got rid of him....

you are in my thoughts
Marjan

I blocked this dude and his lovely abused wife from my fb and myspace totally...like as in they would not even be able to see that I use it. Just for safety sake. Pdoc agreed that what this man said did not make sense. Said he sounded a little unbalanced.

NF, I'm really impressed. I would say I'm even inspired by your actions and example here. (Yeah, I too know about the Narcissist.)
These kinds of people can make us question our judgment..our inner voice, but you seem to have grown to such a degree that you are stronger, wiser, than the manipulations of such. Good job!
Patty

Oh no Patty, I do not tolerate that kind of behavior. And thank you for being proud of me. I think I handled it well. But you know, 2 days of a friend of 4 years suddenly yelling and judging and being verbally abusive hurts and causes stress. When I am stressed a little self doubt creeps in. My pdoc helped me see the obsurdity of actions and words (you offered to let him stay with you for $100 every 2 weeks and says he won't have it for 2 weeks and he he calls you selfish). We went over the behaviors that upset me the most so that helped a lot. This ex friend is part of an inspiration I have. I will start a new thread because it involves a whole bunch of different issues that I have discussed in different forums. Look for my post in a day or 2 in the (believe or not) either the school/studies forum or the career/job forum if there is one.