[marjan]

I'm so angry, excited, happy right now....I have so much mix emotions....Please help me....

For those who know my story.....Aaron was there.....

Gosh....he was in the dance party from the class with the other girl....he said he's dating her for 6 months. This new gf is the best friend of the girl that he dated just after me....and there it is....all three girls are there....me, the girl that he dated after me and the new one!

....It made me sick to my stomach and I acted completely weird and said thing that I shouldn't have, but I don't even care....I even think why I didn't say more....like when he introduced me to his new gf, I told her that "oh, I'm the EX"....and she made a comment that he has to date so many girls till he find the one....such a thing....I said nothing at that time and he told her right in front of me....I don't think she understood....I can't believe I didn't say anything....I want to email him and tell him that....

later on he told me that he didn't like the whole thing and it was so awkward.....and he said...I don't like what you are telling me....because I told him that he's a player....I said....I don't say that you like it....I don't care....

he was totally pissed!

I can't believe I was going so much out of my way.....for what?
I think I'm still pissed at myself that I went out with him in the first place and hurt myself....then I haven't had any relationship after him while he had two relationships....

I think I'm so happy that I'm moving out from this city.....It was end of era!

But at the end, I'm happy that I don't have such a jerk in my life....who can trust such a person....he will find somebody else and move on so quickly....

Not sure if I should email him?

Just wanted to clarify with him that I did understand what his girlfriend told me....I just didn't want to make any comment....I hate that he said right in front of me that I didn't understand it.....not sure why I said nothing....
Should I email him? Now that I went this much far?

thanks
Marjan

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Dear Marjan,

You are all over the place at the moment and you need to settle yourself. If you are moving on then theres no reason to email him. If you have no feelings you wouldn't react the way you are doing.

I'd take some deep breaths and let it all go,

Loving thoughts,

Rhian

[sanityseeker]

I concur Marjn. Involving yourself in communications with Aaron may not be your best move right now. Take a bit of time to let your thoughts settle a little before taking any action is my advice to you. Remember, healing the grief of loss and change is a process. Sometimes things happen that surface old feelings and it takes time to work through them.

[Perna]

Marjan, it is just more dramatics. Do not concern yourself with Aaron or his girlfriends. Just keep focusing on your move and new life. That's past and not where you want to be right now.

[marjan]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

Dear Marjan,

You are all over the place at the moment and you need to settle yourself. If you are moving on then theres no reason to email him. If you have no feelings you wouldn't react the way you are doing.

I'd take some deep breaths and let it all go,

Loving thoughts,

Rhian

I know you are right....I'm really all over the place....I knew I should have not gone out that night knowing that he is there with those girls....but I did it....hate that....
thanks for the advice....I got to settle myself down.....thanks for reminder....I need that....

[marjan]

Originally Posted by sanityseeker

I concur Marjn. Involving yourself in communications with Aaron may not be your best move right now. Take a bit of time to let your thoughts settle a little before taking any action is my advice to you. Remember, healing the grief of loss and change is a process. Sometimes things happen that surface old feelings and it takes time to work through them.

Hi Sanityseeker.....good to see you here....hope everything is going well with you....
Thanks for the advice.....I'm happy I opened PC first before emailing him right now.....the whole night I had dream about him, his girl friend and his ex-girlfriend.....
The guy is a total jerk....he's a player....what else....you goes out with one girl, one quick argument, then he goes after her best friend....then over and over again.....
I got to close this chapter of my life and move on.....I told everybody last night that I can't come to the classes anymore and I might not be able to attend the parties....
Hate that I went to the party and I'm so nerves and anxious today....can't take him and the girl out of my mind.....they seemed pretty happy together....but he looked like the same with other girl too....
thanks again.....

[marjan]

Originally Posted by Perna

Marjan, it is just more dramatics. Do not concern yourself with Aaron or his girlfriends. Just keep focusing on your move and new life. That's past and not where you want to be right now.

Thanks Perna.....and the most dramatic part is that I knew I should have not gone there, but I did it....I was so tired and my best bet was just staying at home and sleep....instead I went there for an hour!
bad intention really.....
well....I didn't feel anything for him.....I'm more angry than having any feelings toward him....
his guy friend told me how things went really ugly when he started dating this girl who is the best girl friend of the previous girl.....
Honesty, I feel some how a bit smart for knowing his bad nature from a day one and not wanting him in my life....although I had so much attraction for him!

I will not email him....and I will try to quite thinking about him....no drama for me!

[sanityseeker]

I think you are wise to not email him. Put the space back between you and put him back into your past. You have so much now to look forward to marjn. A whole new life awaits you. Allow your thoughts to get lost in your hopes for the future. Let thoughts of Aaron and the past pass you by. No good can come from trying to understand all the feelings thinking of him stirs up in you. It is what it is. He is who he is. Time to move on without giving thought to any of it.

Let distraction and thoughts of where you are going serve to settle your spirit today. I hope you are able to get some quality sleep tonight. You know how the lack of sleep can effect you so take good care of you today.

You are on the road to find out..... you know that old Cat Steven's song? Take care hun.

i think you've done enough marjan, lol. this guy just upsets you so do try to stay away from him and avoid the drama. we're all human and make mistakes so don't beat yourself or him up so much, okay?

Hiya! Marjan, you've made a good choice not to bother with him! Don't send that e-mail, because he'll just anger you more regardless of his response. Once you move away, I'm sure you'll troubles will stay right there with him. Let him do what he pleases, and you, well, you just enjoy yourself wherever you're moving too!

That's all I'll pretty much say. I've sorta been through the same thing, and I'm glad to say that person is no longer important to me. I don't know what I saw in that loonatic. :P

Later hunny!

He is a player, and you are allowing him to play with you.

[marjan]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

He is a player, and you are allowing him to play with you.

Well...honesty, I think it was more my game than him....

Sorry guys....but I couldn't resist to not email him....I just wrote very short saying "hey....I think I was a bit buzzed Saturday night...lol....but, your new girl even insulted her own best friend with the comment she made...such a loyal friend!!!! Holly looks like a sweet girl....."

I know he would not reply me back, but I had to answer that rude comment of the new girl....and yes, I do have a guilty pleasure out of it .....

I've been acting out of my character....but I had these in my mind to tell him for a long time....besides, I found out I was so lucky that I'm not with him....who knows most likely he would go after one of my friends, although I know I have loyal friends.....

He might think that I'm crazy....but I said what I wanted to tell him for so long....

My new apartment and this new city is exciting.....lots of new things to discover here....

Thanks guys for the support and I hope I didn't disappoint you guys....
with love
marjan

[sanityseeker]

Don't worry about us being disappointed in you Marjn. You did what you had to do and you got from it what you needed. It all sounds good to me.

If you had not been so upset with him, you would not have made the play. He has less invested in you than you in him. One with no conscience moves on without remorse leaving a trail of hurt behind to fester.

[Belle1979]

Majan xx

Hugs to you.
I think you had to have the 'out burst' and by going to the party you got it all out of you finally.. But like yourself I know what it's like to act out of character - when I think of the things I have said and done with the Mark situation I have huge remorse.. followed by fits of giggles at some of the things I did LOL.. but I remind myself that I was too nice for much too long.. as were you.
You are allowed to act any way you want.. the key is not to dwell on it after you have.
No disappointment in you... just proud that you can express it all here and get it out of your head..
Block Aaron from Fb so that you actually can't see his page (well unless you unblock him) then you wont know what he is up to and you can't get saddened/angry/hurt by anything he does.

Take care xxoo

[marjan]

Thanks everybody....

yes, it's true that I invested more than him in the relationship....he has his own roles, very quickly he goes out with another girl then his mind doesn't think about the previous girl....verses me who hasn't really been in any relationship yet....

I have zero regret for what I told him and what I emailed him....He wants to think that I was hurt or I'm angry at him, so what? yes, I am....There is no price for a guy like him....all these girls are so nice to him and he goes on and on with his game....

I was so hurt when we broke up and he moved on so quickly, then I was so nice that whenever he was asking me to dance with, I was dancing with him....Saturday night was different....I think it was the first night that I rejected his request for dancing....I know how much he gets pissed....you had to see his face, he was all shocked....

I'm looking forward to future....and as much as I wanted him before, now I don't want him.....my logic is telling me that it's waste of time and energy even thinking about him.....

good that I moved far from him....and I'm going to block him on FB right now....I don't need to see anything from him....although, I would love to know when he will break up with this new girl.....

Yesterday, when I was thinking if it was really bad what I did or said, then I felt no shame and I was happy that I said what I wanted to say long time ago....

Thanks again guys...
Marjan

[Belle1979]

Marjan you rock girl Stay strong!

[marjan]

Originally Posted by Belle1979

Marjan you rock girl Stay strong!

It's funny....still I don't regret at all....and I'm happy for what I told him....
you got to see his face when I asked him if he wants to get married with the new girl....he was so hesitated, he didn't say anything....because he's a player....he just said..."oh, it's going well with her....it's been 6 months....we go cycling together!!!! she's a scientist like me!!!!"
well...he was telling me all these stuff too....I have a science degree if that makes me a scientist....hehehe....
I blocked him...really don't need to get stressed out of this stuff!