[shooting.star]

My boyfriend and I are so incredibly happy together. We went dancing with lets say a sort of group party.I was a recent acquaintance of him but that was all, then he asked me to dance and that was all.. I know this sounds cheesy but from that day forth I couldn't stop thinking about him, I couldn't stop wondering about him. This was in December of 2009. He has been away for school since then and came back in April.We had an amazing summer and we were almost inseparable the whole time. Now it has reached the time when he must go away again. I'm scared, I dont want anything to change, I think I am in love with him although I cant even get up the nerve to say it :S Anyway I dont know what to do, I can't lose him. What do you think? Will everything turn out ok? and any suggestions?
oh there is a four and half year age difference but that has no effect on us when were together

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello shooting.star,

I can see you obviously care about this boy. How old is he and how old are you? You make it sound so wonderful but I know too that we are reading your interpretation of the way you see things with this boy. You both knew he was going back to school now so the only thing you can do is ask if you can stay in contact with him and he you.

Hon we aren't a crsystal ball site, we can't read your post and say "heypresto theres your answer". Life isn't like that because there are so many variables and so many choices and chances that life throws up at us every day.

You could tell him how you feel and see what happens, you have nothing to lose after all. It can only go one way or the other....good luck with it,

Rhiannon

[shooting.star]

he is 21 and I am 18, age never comes between us. I dont know its just yea he means a lot to me, I dont know maybe I am going insane but hes just so great. I am scared to tell him that I love him beecause of his reaction? is that normal? Im just so confused.

[hoping4best]

Yes, we all fear rejection,that is normal. But if u really like this guy then i dont see any harm in letting him know that u like him. His response,whatever it might be,will make things clear for u.

[bridgie]

If he is your boyfriend why wouldn't you stay in touch. Did he say it was a summer fling or are you a couple? If you are a couple you just deal with the distance (phone calls letters text emails) and on breaks he comes back spend time together. you can always visit him too. I would tell him how you feel that is an importan part of a relationship. But you both have to want to be a long distance or it won't work.

[shooting.star]

thank you everyone for telling me this, it really helps me, yes I am planning to tell him and he definitely said it was NOT a summer fling. We will work it out and hopefully things will get better with time

[bridgie]

Sounds like heading in a good direction.

[salukigirl]

Just throwing this out there.....if you two are really headed in that awesome cant live without each other direction then, when the time comes for you to go away to school, he should be supportive. Education should come first for both of you and it doesnt sound like youre ready to put anything on hold for him but just want him to know that you care a lot. I hope everything works out for you two!

[shooting.star]

I have a question, are guys outward with their emotions and feelings? because to me it seems he never says something caring or just something that makes me smile. He does once in a while but thats about it. Also should I ask him if he's serious about making it work throughout the year? I am the kind of person that needs to hear it otherwise I worry too much, and I really wanna know.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by shooting.star

he is 21 and I am 18, age never comes between us. I dont know its just yea he means a lot to me, I dont know maybe I am going insane but hes just so great. I am scared to tell him that I love him beecause of his reaction? is that normal? Im just so confused.

No, no judgement I asked only to gague maturity. I can understand your fear of rejection and being afraid he wouldn't or couldn't return your love. Just take things one day at a time and see how you go. You do have us for support and you can come to us any time you need help.

You just have to be strong and go in the direction of yiour heart but if it's your heart that is hesitant then listen to it. Take care,

Rhiannon