[beautifuldisaster07]

how come everytime I talk to my boyfriend about my problems he comes out with a "I dont care" or "whatever" it really hurts me when he says that because I want him to help me and be here for me but I dont think he is.

[Belle1979]

If my BF had that attitude I'd be leaving him quick smart.

[Onward2wards]

Sounds to me like he is either:

* Being completely selfish and unfeeling
or
* Depressed and therefore preoccupied with his own brooding thoughts (that explains but does NOT excuse his attitude)

Either way, you certainly deserve better than this kind of treatment.

[Bracken23]

perhaps you need to tell him exactly how you feel and explain that this attitude will not do. It's hard though I know, and we often prevent ourselves from saying what needs to be said as we worry about the outcome - what if he really doesn't care? Then you have a decision to make. What if he does care and is stuck in a rut? Then he has an opening to discuss this. I suggest making a time for you both to sit down and chat - ask him when he is willing to do this but insist that you do have a chat. Ask him to think about what is good in your relationship and what needs improving and you do the same.

Good luck

[Rhiannonsmoon]

beautifuldisaster,

You are very very confused at the moment aren't you? You posts concerning your boyfriend have gone from his being your bestfriend to someone who ignores you and comments like "I don't care" or "Whatever". I honestly think you need a doctor to help you sort through this, or a counsellor but you can't let this keep twisting you up the way it is,

Rhiannon