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Jul 20, 2010, 05:03 PM
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Hi everyone,
Posted this in the Schizoid Personality Disorder forum, but have not received any replies. D: I guess not too many people read that forum? So I decided to post my question here too. I have been diagnosed as having schizoid traits, and a schizoid "style"...but not the full-blown disorder. I do have a question though that I wanted to ask here, to see if anyone else shared my feelings. Does anybody just NOT have the wanting to be in a romantic relationship? I've never truly wanted to be in one, and some people I know see that as abnormal. To me, it's perfectly normal. The farthest I've come to wanting "romance" is sexual fantasies, and masturbation. But I don't do those things very often, either. So, has anyone NEVER really wanted to be in a romantic relationship? Thanks to anyone who reads this. 
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Jul 20, 2010, 05:25 PM
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Never. Never ever ever wanted to.
In my opinion it's just a waste of time. Time I don't have. Plus, I've loved someone before and it just resulted in heartbrake, so why try again? It's just pointless to me. It's ok, by the way. No one really replies to me either. X-P |
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#3
Jul 20, 2010, 08:21 PM
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Melissa, do you know why you have no desire for a romantic relationship?
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Jul 20, 2010, 09:04 PM
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Jul 20, 2010, 09:08 PM
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As I mentioned in your other thread, this is a characteristic of SPD.
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Jul 20, 2010, 10:26 PM
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| lynn P.
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Jul 21, 2010, 05:50 AM
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Hello Melissa,
I'm not Schizoid as far as I know...but at the close of my marriage I was totally and utterly certain I did not want another relationship at all; friends yes, love no..I went to the Goddess Tree and I released my ex husband completely and I released my life dedicating it to the Goddess...she must have been chuckling at me because 3 days after I met the love of my life and we have been together since...and I still say I didn't want a relationship...
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| Belle1979
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Jul 21, 2010, 09:20 AM
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I don't find anything wrong or unusual about what you want at the moment but, having never experienced such a relationship, I don't know what you are basing your non-wants on? I've never wanted to live in a foreign country but couldn't tell you all that much about what it is/how it feels. I've visited foreign countries and liked them but my idea of what I wouldn't like living there is based on me and my opinions and fears, not any personal experience.
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Jul 21, 2010, 09:52 AM
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I'm not schizoid but have never had the desire for a romantic relationship. I have always had guy friends, but never interested in them romantically. When I met my husband, I was interested in getting my degree & my career because I never trusted a guy to take care of me & felt I was better off taking care of myself. Turned out I was right. I realized that I never loved my husband before we got married. His attitude about many things in life conflicted with mine, but I ended up getting married anyway because "the wedding invitations were already out". Those things caused me not to respect my fiencee & I can't love someone I don't respect. Realized that after leaving him after 33 years of being with him & trying to make it work.
I have no desire to have a romantic relationship now....separated not divorced because of financial reasons, but even anyway, there would be no way I would ever have any romantic relationships in the future. I have no interest in any romance or anything like it. My life is filled with much more satisfying things now & find no need for any romance of any kind.....not even fantacies. I don't feel anything abnormal about it. I do not believe in sex out of marriage......so there is nothing abnormal about my not having any desire for a romantic feelings or relationships.
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Jul 21, 2010, 02:36 PM
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Life is about making choices. Your illness may or may not be the predominating factor in not wanting a romantic relationship. Even so, it is your life and your choice.
At a point in the future, your feelings about a romantic relationship may change. If so, that is a choice that needs to be respected too. Take care of yourself, Melissa. |
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