[Jenn1fer82]

I recently got back in touch with an old best-friend since I was in middle school. We were very very close friends even like sisters up until four years ago. We had a fall out and we stopped talking to one another. Recently I found out that we only live across from one another in our apartment complex. She's invited me twice into her home and we've had hours long conversation to help one another catch up in our lives. We just picked up where we left off as though we never had ended our friendship. She encourages me that I can call/text her at any time and talk.
My problem is I don't want to get hurt and disappointed that if I begin to get close to her again that our friendship will end suddenly like it did before. she was my strongest support back then and suddenly it just fell to the dust. I miss our friendship and I never stopped thinking about how she's been and where is she in life but this time around I dont know if I can trust her to be a friend that will stick around.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle a situation like this? Lately I don't have that support in my life where I can run to someone to talk to so I find myself want to go to her again but there's a part of me that doesn't trust it yet.

[sanityseeker]

take the risk. you will survive even if it goes south again. talk to her about your fears. you have a lot of history. let her in and trust yourself to deal with what may or may not come down the road. it will be worth it. best friends are hard to come by and if you want her back in your life then go for it.

[justjoanie]

I agree with Sanityseeker.... Take the risk. But don't let her be your only close friend. Put yourself out there to find another. If you have more than one "best friend" then you can fall back on each other when one of you is busy or can't help you with your situation.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

I'd say tak a chance; you are both grown into matured adults and I think you will see that what happened in middle school isn't as important as now. You don't just shut off from someone you cared about, and though I understand your concern of the past, you just have to take a chance on things if you want to see them work.

Don't use her as a support person, think of this as reigniting a friendship that probably shoulld never have been in hitaus..but so that you could both grow into the people you are now, it needed to happen...

Rhiannon