[Eriksplus]

My system & I (I am DID) are friends with a 16 year old in another state. Their mother dosen't appriceate us AIMing, so they have to AIM us at 10:00PM our time. Last night they ne're arrived, not even after two hours; they didn't even send us an Email saying they couldn't AIM. We're especially worried that either they're seriously injured or their mother found out about the AIMing. We're probably sobbing over spilled milk as usuall, but one worried lets their mind wander. Situations like this with this friend have happened before & it's always nothing, but it's so very tiering to be in a relationship where you contantly worry...we're thinking if we ever hear from them again, we won't have them AIM us anymore without their mother's premission (which they say will happen when she finds the time). It's simply rediculious to have more stress in your life, especially from a very good friend.
What do you think?

(Hill)Erik

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello Eriksplus,

It's very unfair when people who do not understand relationships that are innocent; mothers though have this propensity to worry about their daughters and 16 is very young (though I don't know what age you are Eriksplus).

Does she know that you are DID? We know that people with DID are not dangerous, but people out there who deliberately stay away from people with mental illness have this almost siege mentality when it comes to protecting themselves from us "loonies" loll. Poor things they are, are just not prepared for people with a broken brain or broken emotions...if it were a broken leg they'd have no trouble handle it...

Give it a couple of days the lass may contact you but if not just send her a message that you understand; if there is a forum where you connect just use that to communicate. Hope you settle soon,

Rhiannon

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

Hello Eriksplus,

It's very unfair when people who do not understand relationships that are innocent; mothers though have this propensity to worry about their daughters and 16 is very young (though I don't know what age you are Eriksplus).

Does she know that you are DID? We know that people with DID are not dangerous, but people out there who deliberately stay away from people with mental illness have this almost siege mentality when it comes to protecting themselves from us "loonies" loll. Poor things they are, are just not prepared for people with a broken brain or broken emotions...if it were a broken leg they'd have no trouble handle it...

Give it a couple of days the lass may contact you but if not just send her a message that you understand; if there is a forum where you connect just use that to communicate. Hope you settle soon,

Rhiannon

Both the mother and friend know about the DID, & the friend could care less; I do very much so agree on the "protective" mother bit. The body age is 18.
It's worked out so far, but I really do need assistance getting over this deep fear of loosing someone.

(Hill)Erik

[Perna]

It sounds like you all IM a lot. It could be that the 16 year old just wants some time to do other things. I don't know if you have other friends? I remember when I use to have friends who'd IM a lot, over time it got harder and harder because there wasn't time for anything else. I don't think you're losing your friend but the friendship may be changing a bit, not being quite so all-the-time? I would try to hang loose, see what you friend does/wants to do instead of focusing on them so much, get into some other stuff and see what develops.

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by Perna

It sounds like you all IM a lot. It could be that the 16 year old just wants some time to do other things. I don't know if you have other friends? I remember when I use to have friends who'd IM a lot, over time it got harder and harder because there wasn't time for anything else. I don't think you're losing your friend but the friendship may be changing a bit, not being quite so all-the-time? I would try to hang loose, see what you friend does/wants to do instead of focusing on them so much, get into some other stuff and see what develops.

We do, every day.
She does do other things, we're the ones that seem to latch to the computer all day.
We have other friends, but this one is very special to us, especially to me.
Well we discovered the problem was she fell asleep before she could get onto her laptop, but we still cannot quit fearing the worst, which we need to do.
I think that as well, & I also think we (especially I) need to quit latching on to her so much.

(Hill)Erik