[Naturefreak]

I've been single for most of my 46 years on earth. I never had a long term relationship. What really bothers me is I feel I need somebody in my life but I know I would just be setting myself up for failure.
It doesn't matter what I write here or on dating sites or pretty much anywhere I go ........... for ME it seems impossible.
When I watch romance movies , and I watched many of them.
Titanic....Serendipity.....The Notebook to name a few . I can see myself in that situation , even though I know real life relationships are not like that. I usually can't get through it without a kleenex or two.
These are not sad tears ..... these are happy tears. The ones I will probably only get to cry during movies.
Everywhere I look I see couples................ where are all the single women ?

[notz]

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[Naturefreak]

Originally Posted by notz

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Thanks Notz I knew I could count on you.

Not on point, but in the neighborhood: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26887787

[Naturefreak]

Originally Posted by TheByzantine

Not on point, but in the neighborhood: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26887787

Thanks Byz That's not me , but I appreciate you taking the time.

[Perna]

My aunt is 88, has had a long and interesting life. She was a naval aviator in WWII and has a couple of masters degrees in education, did a lot of teachers union work while teaching special ed. She's still very active in her church now, which is around the corner from her assisted living apartment, has a zillion friends, etc. She's always been one of my inspirational models.

Keep looking and its rare you will find however if you stop looking it will jump out at you !

[Elana05]

Hi Babysteps,

I know it seems impossible. What I mean is, I know where are you are coming from. I'm not sure if this is helpful, but for me the impossible has been related to finding work that I love. To be a bit more specific, it means finding work where I do not begin to suffer from some kind of stress-related reaction upon thinking about it. Mind you, I am rather soft-spoken but I have gone off in several therapy sessions pointing out with complete and utter confidence that being able to navigate the world of career or life's-work is something that is meant for other people and it is not meant for me. I remember saying in a very assertive manner once how very quaint it is that so many people can decide what they would like to do in college and then follow that path untill they are making a nice salary of maybe 30K a year (or more!) doing something that they are at least mildly interested in. As you can imagine there, I was trying to hide a lot of pain with a good deal of defensiveness.
Yet with a lot of talking it out in therapy I admit that a very (very) slow change has begun to take place. There is a chink in my armor, so to speak, where I am only slightly less convinced that this is for other people only and not for me. I have begun to crack my old school textbooks again (I had to drop out of school). I have begun to dream ever so slightly. I would ask you to consider what that word impossible means to you and I urge you to talk it over. There is certainly nothing wrong with being single. But it is wise to take the time to ask your heart what she really wants.

E

Well-spoken, Elana.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

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There's a woman out there wondering where you are...

Rhiannon

[marjan]

don't put too much thoughts into it babysteps.....that special person will come to your life when you are least expecting it.....
I'm like you thinking is there any single guy out there that I'm interested in and he's interested in me???? but I just shut down those thoughts and try to enjoy my life.....still feel that empty space in my heart and my bed every day

don't stop looking....keep looking it will pay off at the end.....I'm totally disagree with the philosophy of stop looking.....I think whatever you need in life, you got to search for it....but the key is enjoying your life and do what you want at the same time, just not to stop your life totally.....

take care
Marjan

[Rhiannonsmoon]

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If I were your Faerie Goddessmother I would bring her to you right this moment...But I'm only a Goddess and I am limited in my power..I shall try for you though...

Rhiannon