[Kangels3287]

I havent several times concerning my ex, everyone on here and all my friends think he is not a good person. I dont know what is wrong with me. When I date others all I want is for it to me my ex! I know he is not a good person but I can't seem to let go!
I have sent his current GF an email with all the texts he has sent me saying how he want and desires me, the last time he came to my house. He has made a fool out of me and out of her. I didnt know he had a GF till I say it on facebook. I am so embarressed and hurt. I should be able to move on but I feel stuck and I just don't understand why.
I truelly loved him and thought we were going to get married, that is what he told me. Then he got cold feet and left me. Now the other girl is living there just like I did. Its only been a month since we've quit seeing each other!! I scared and confused to why I am so crazy about a person who is nasty to me. My head knows its wrong but my heart still wants him!!
Any advice??

[lynn P.]

Sometimes we can get addicted to the drama. Human's also don't like to feel rejected so you naturally want to win him back. He's obviously playing both of you. You could also have co-dependent issues.

The best way to get over this urge to let him come back is, to cut off all contact, even emails/Facebook. You need to get him out of your system like a bad drug. Remember you deserve better than what he's offering. He'll tell you both what you want to hear - don't believe it.

[AmDaws]

I'm in a similar situation. I honestly don't have a lot of advice, since I'd be a hypocrite if I told you what to do. Obviously I agree with Lynn, cutting off contact is what you need to do. But it's really hard. I mean, they make you hate yourself, they make you feel horrible, but all you want is for them to need you again.

Try to do what I can't; cut off contact. Bury yourself in something else, like writing, painting, exercising, dancing, whatever keeps your mind off him.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

((((kangels))))

What a sad and painful situation to be in. As with most women I've been there and I've had to go through the cleansing process of getting him out of my system. It is never easy but my goodness it's worth it!

I would ask though please don't hurt the other girl it isn't her fault he is playing you both of a break and he's been doing it for a while. He is the type of person anyone would be better off without. Think of him as boiling bubbling hot cooking fat...now would you plunge your hands into that? No and you would be mad if you did. Let him go and cleanse him from your life completely.

Learn to heal yourself and know not to get involved with anyone like him again. The great thing is that he isn't your problem any more, he can't hurt you any more than he has done so you are already stronger for having gone through this.

You deserve someone better and you can have someone who is good to you and whom you can be good to...don't look back,

Rhiannon