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Sep 05, 2010, 12:22 PM
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I was on my husbands email yesterday, and there was a renewal membership email. I asked him (jokingly) if it was a renewal for porn and he said yes. I was very upset, to say the least. He just came back from Iraq, and he said that he liked to watch it while he was over there. The website is all Voyuerism, random people from the US, sending in videos and pictures of themselves having sex with other people. I am pissed like hell. The first time he went to Iraq he had an affair on me. he thinks this is no big deal, and I am so sick of it. I asked him how he would feel if I watched this and PAID for this, and he said he wouldnt care, but I really don't believe it. I am at the point where I don't want to give him an ultimatum. I just want to know why it is so important to him. Why would he want to offend me?
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Sep 05, 2010, 01:29 PM
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Hi bubblez0269,
I do think guys just like to look at porn. But cheating is something else. Have you both sought any counselling about it? It's not fair that he just wants you to brush it off. Sending you warm wishes... hope you are able to sort through it. E |
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Sep 05, 2010, 02:30 PM
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Had he not engaged in an affair, would you still be upset or as upset to know he's watching pornography?
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Sep 05, 2010, 07:27 PM
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If the affair isn't the issue and the porn is, have you considered trying to watch it with him? Make it a couples thing rather than just 'him'.
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Sep 05, 2010, 07:32 PM
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Sep 05, 2010, 09:52 PM
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Very very sentient Belle, that is a really good idea.
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Sep 05, 2010, 10:14 PM
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Are u saying that he thinks the porn is no big deal... or that he had an affair is no big deal?
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