[hoping4best]

Why does it happen that when i thnk that i have got hold on myself and have finally accepted that i dnt have any future with the 'gone guy', then one day out of nowhere he sends me a text! :O what the hell does he want to do wid me now? all the feelings come back to me again and i become so miserable! What should i do?

[hoping4best]

I really really want to forget this guy. I really do. But im so obsessed with him. And ppl he is gone for almst 2 years by now...how much more time do i need to get over him?

[hoping4best]

Just thinking...m i suffering frm bipolar? Because i get so upset and restless over trivial thngs and lose focus on what really need to be done at tha moment.

[Belle1979]

It's hard when someone you hold dear suddenly pops back up into your life. My suggestion is that you need to block him from your phone - unless he has good intentions and has changed over the past two years??

Otherwise you are not giving yourself a chance to move forward and find the RIGHT person for you xxx

[bridgie]

i understand how this works sort of. ive been through this with my baby daddy(sperm donor) every few years he would show up or contact me and say the same old things i miss you i love you want to be with you and for awhile i allowed him back 10 years of this every cpl years business. but he always ended up screwing me over. once even to cheat and get another woman pregnant. i do advise to block him from your phone and remember what he has done that he is gone in the first place. over time it is easy to remember the good times and how things were but there was a reason gone guy is gone. it is healthy to not go back to something that isnt good for you. good luck stay strong

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Block him completely. Why open yourself to misery again? Learn to make your own life your obsession, your own goals your obsession...let yourself live!

[Belle1979]

Sounds contrite but to quote something that I have on my facebook "You wont find the right person if you don't let go of the wrong one" xxx

[hoping4best]

Acting upon ur advice,i have blocked and unfriended him on facebook.i cant block him on my fone so that he cant text me as my fone doesnt have this particular function/option. But there is one thng that i can do, i can change my fone number. I thnk i shud do it asap.

[hoping4best]

Belle, he doesnt have gud intentions. And i believe now that he never really had. Ths time too when he texted me, it wasnt becoz he was missing me or somethng,he verbally abused me and tried to cnvince me to hav sex chat wid him. But y the hell wud i talk sex wid him knowing that he is only using me for his mömentary pleasure

[hoping4best]

He knows that i cant resist him.he knows that he'll definitely get a reply frm me wenever he wil text me. He has already indicated this few months ago. He knows,and yet he doesnt feel for me

[hoping4best]

Do guys really dnt understand girl's feelings? Does their brain really function so differently that the thngs whch r very important for girls r least important for boys? May be i need to stay away completely frm boys.

[YoungPilotAstray]

jiakhan, you're doing well to block him and stay away from him I think.

But I don't think you need to stay away from boys. Everyone's different, there's some very nice ones out there too.

[Belle1979]

There has to be good ones out there look at the old couples in there 80's walking along still in love and holding hands - now that is proof!
Everyone and every relationship is different - you just have to have patience and the 'right' person will be your bestfriend, lover, confidant, soul mate.. He may not seem right to anyone else, but he will be the 'right' one for you xx

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Originally Posted by Belle1979

you just have to have patience and the 'right' person will be your bestfriend, lover, confidant, soul mate.. He may not seem right to anyone else, but he will be the 'right' one for you xx

I found mine at age 44 after being married 132 times (joke) I didn't WANT anyone I wanted to be alone and on my own...no such luck....I found a gorgeous hunk of a man and I'm really happy...and he doesn't want to get married, doesn't want all the bull that goes with it and we are happy to just be..

You find out later in life that you've been living to socuieties rules and what has is got you? debt, disgust and disenchantment...and in most cases mental illness...

Wait up there jaikhan and you'll find a wonderful man...because the wonderful ones are waiting for the wonderful women...ask Belle...she knows she just met one...

You're doing really well to stay away from the one who has caused you pain and trouble so pat yourself on the back and be patient...

oh and mens brains are different to womens and they do work different

[hoping4best]

Having blocked him frm my facebook,im feeling better.i just hope this feeling lasts! Meanwhile,i need to work on my appearance aswell so that "the right one will have no trouble in recognizing me" hehe. Hows that?

[Belle1979]

LOL ((jiakhan))
The right one will find you when you are least expecting it.. possibly when you are feeling that you are looking the worst you possibly could hehe.
Being happy with how you appear and see yourself will make you feel more confident in yourself (my opinion)

Thanks Rhiannon.. yes I have found a really GOOD guy - after the heart break of the previous relationship I didn't want and or expect it really... but it just happened

If it can happen for me then it can happen for everyone I think xxx