[beautifuldisaster07]

I am going thru a self-esteem issue and would really like to hear what people have to say about it......

I recently just had a daughter in May of this year and every since I came home from the hospital I have hated my body, Im only 115 lbs and 5'9, so Im pretty skinny and I went back down to my normal size just a couple days after having her, I have long dark brown hair and bluish grey eyes, before I got pregnant with her I actually went around thinking I was pretty, but now that I am not tan anymore and I have a stretch mark on my stomach I cant stand to look at myself in the mirror, I have tried that thing where you stand in the mirror and each day pick something out about yourself that you like but I seem to cant find anything.....

This problem I am going thru is becoming another problem in my relationship, because I hate my body and myself I seem to keep thinking my boyfriend is going to find someone better than me or prettier than me. I hate thinking that or accusing him because he loves his family and I know he would never cheat on me and he tells me all the time he doesnt want to find anyone else that he loves only me and always will. It has become a problem in our relationship so much that he wants to leave and I kind of dont want him here anymore because I think he is with someone that isnt pretty and he can do so much better, does anybody have any advice for me what I should do, me and my boyfriend both want to save our relationship but I need to get my self-esteem back.

thanks, meagan

[rohshall]

Seems like your parents gave too much importance to attractiveness rather than what kind of person you are. (Same with my parents too.) Of course being physical attractive is important, but so are being wise, patient, intelligent, etc

If you define yourself only as a pretty person and derive your sense of value from your beauty, you are bound to feel low when you grow old, pregnant, etc.
You need to celebrate yourself for being beautiful and much more.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Dear beautifuldisaster,

This could be post natal depression? I'd see a doctor and find out if there is a diagnosis. Take the tests online here at PC print them out and take them with when you visit the doctor, it may give him some idea of what you are suffering with,

Rhiannon