[hoping4best]

hi,

i was in relationship with this really cool guy,n i really really liked him a lot.in fact he's the first ever guy i got serious about. we even iused to talk about getting married in future... then well things changed alot!!!!!!! later he got married but apparantly things didnt work for both of them. well ppl now he's back. he wants to patch up with me. i know that its really a bad idea to be in relationship with married guys......but would u like to suggest anything reagarding this matter?

im confused what to do...as i think i still love this guy. i tried to move on in past.. even tried to be frioends with new guys.......but it all made my life even more miserable. haaaaahhhh....donno what to do now!!! should i give him another chance?? or should i simply NOT become a homebreaker???

do come up with suggestions please....i need them.. i need all ur opinions!!



regards!

[hoping4best]

if u guys ask me do i still want him then my answer would be ' yes!'
he never really stood by me in past.. i trused him alot but he always proved unworthy to be trusted upon. he always remained confuse about his feelings for me. but i still love him. very much!

[NuckingFutz]

You deserve to be with a trustworthy person. You can carry him in your heart all you want too, but please do not let him back into your life.

[Mike_J]

You don't need to worry about being a "homebreaker" sounds like he is doing a good job of that on his own. What you do need to worry about is yourself, keeping your heartach to a minamum. I think you should move on, don't try to be friends with him, all you will get out of it is more pain.

[Tamale]

Of course he wants to patch things up with you he just got kicked out of a relationship! While he deserves support for his own problems in life, you are not really the person obligated to give him that. He sounds like he may just be using you until his wife comes around or he finds someone else.

Sometimes I think we are in love with the IDEA of someone, rather than the reality of who they are. Every time they do something that hurts us and doesn't fit in with our idea of them as a "knight in shining armor" or "bad boy with a heart" or whatever, we just set the reality aside and let ourselves get hurt.

[hoping4best]

my ex wanted to patch up with me but i maintained distance. its better to move on. but i have ended up liking this new guy about whom i have mentioned in my recent posts. but i hope things will get better and i will move on once again.

[Belle1979]

(((jiakhan)))

I'll admitt it, there was a time when I would do ANYTHING for have my ex crawling back to me.. but they are in your past for a reason
If anything was to happen with this guy he would need to be free and clear of any 'baggage' that he has at the moment... if he is serious about wanting you back then waiting a few months wont hurt anything..
If you are trully moved on.. then I do hope that you manage to move past the other guy (the one you work with). You deserve better and I do promise that better is out there for you xxx

[Rhiannonsmoon]

((((((((jaikhan))))))))

What are you thinking? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Remember the heartache you went through because of this guy?!

Please hon take heed of all of the advice given to you here and stay right away from this guy. You know what happened before and it will happen again and you know it!!

Plus you simply cannot jump from being in love with someone one day and then another one the next day and then back with another one the day after that. There are no real feelings in these so called "relationships" only romantic notions.

Please jaikhan do yourself the biggest favour and get to know yourself and heal yourself before you even attempt to get into a relationship

[bridgie]

i would stay away from both. you are at a point you are going to take care of yourself and get well before you work on relationship. still have many emotions to work through. lets focus on that. not what once was or what may be but what is now.

Seems to be Ann Landers day for me: “If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.”

[hoping4best]

Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon

((((((((jaikhan))))))))

What are you thinking? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Remember the heartache you went through because of this guy?!

Please hon take heed of all of the advice given to you here and stay right away from this guy. You know what happened before and it will happen again and you know it!!

Plus you simply cannot jump from being in love with someone one day and then another one the next day and then back with another one the day after that. There are no real feelings in these so called "relationships" only romantic notions.

Please jaikhan do yourself the biggest favour and get to know yourself and heal yourself before you even attempt to get into a relationship

Rhainnon, im not gonna patch up with this ex. im done with him. i dont want him back. there's just too much bitternessin our relationship. he has already hurt me a lot and i cant allow him to do this to me again. so i wont let him back into my life.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Thats a relief jaikhan hon,

I was so worried for a moment or two there not because of you but for you. One day the right man will come along and you will be thoroughly ant totally in love and you will not look back except to remember things as advice for others. Proud of you

[poulet]

Don't do it you deserve b e t t e r.... Don't be sloppy seconds especially if he has hurt you......i don't know you but i can reasure you he will hurt you.... Wait for mr.right to come along, don't bother with mr. Right now!