[silentwhisper]

I suck at building relationships and then keeping them. What I think I am communicating ends up not being what I am communicating yet I find out too late. It feels better to just build walls and not hurt others yet be lonely and hurt myself.

[FeelingHopeful]

Aww Silent Whisper, My heart goes out to you, It takes 2 People to make a relationship work, And Putting up walls I canunderstand , I have done that too, but It doesnt help, try and let someone in, the right person is out there for you, you will feel it when it happens, Big hugs to you!

[objtrbit]

maybe try and hone in on what it is that you are putting up walls for-what type of situation you don't want to get in to, or just bascily, your fears, worst case scenerio.

Communicating; always fun
I'm not sure exactly your situation, but from my own experience, I find that the hardest things to communicate

1. my needs/expectations/desires
2. that I am hurt.

The first one can suck for a partner cuz it can lead to them not knowing how to please you, amoungst other things, and the second one, I think, creates the most problems. If you get hurt, but are afraid to tell a person that you don't like being treated that way (because of fear of a reaction, like pushing them away) then you just end up burying it, holding it in, and the anger/hurt just pretty much builds from there.

Wording can be hard too. Whatever you're going through, I hope you keep talking about it-the more you communicate-the better ya get at it, lol!

Take care,
-obj

[steffi01]

90% of relationships suck coz 90% of people suck. i mean how many couples do u know last more than 10 years. probably none or 1. the right one is out there but it takes time to find them. plz do not dispair. being alone is better than being in a bad relationship. just surround yourself with positive people n one day it will happen.