[kelmay]

My boyfriend had a drug problem and lost his children now inorder to see his kids hehas to stay at his fathers who hates me. so 5 days a week he is at home with me and my % year old then 2 days a week he has to go sleep at his dads with his kids. he says Dec 10th it will all be fixed but that is a long way away. I feel left out, I can go to his dads for a few hours at a time, but what about our family we started before he had the issue? He wants me to stay and for us to work it out, but my daughter is upset too she misses his kids and only gets to see them for a few hours bc my boyfriends dad does not like me and he shows it. What do I do?

[Perna]

Why does your boyfriend's father not like you? Does he mind your daughter? Could your daughter occasionally spend the night with your boyfriend and his kids at his father's house?

I don't know, but sounds like you are too involved with the boyfriend if you can't find other interests of your own to do while he's away with his other family. I would relish the time alone with my daughter and ability to do different things that only we want to do, that he may not want to do, "girl things". I would use the time to expand my own life/world or "rest" and have time to myself, get things done that I can't during the week, etc.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

I would be very concerned about having a drug addict around my child at all. And there must be more to his losing contact with his children than just drugs. I'm sorry but to me there is something not quite right with this.

Why is your influence not adequate for the court to allow contact? You are an adult with custody of your own child. His father not liking you? There has to be a reason for that especially if he shows it overtly no matter who is there. I know I'm just echoing what Perna has said but they are very valid points.