Sex.... how much is 'normal'

We have sort of talked about what he likes and doesn't like... I asked what he did like and he said "this, just as everything is". The first month he was away we had a few 'sexy' chats on Skype - typing not talking and he really seems more into the who kissing and cuddling than anything more. He told me he doesn't like oral (I may have reacted badly to that - said something like I've never known a guy to not like having his ........) But he did say that he is willing to try again.
Foreplay is non existant really... Seems he gets an erection and just wants to get into the act - fine by me really as my body is responsive to him but that may change when it's not all new.

As things progress he might need to start some foreplay... but again.... this screams to me of inexperience and low self esteem/confidence. He might not be good/know how/or just think he isn't good at foreplay so he kind of....skips it.... I think that foreplay would be very important to building up his confidence since you said that orgasm during sex is pretty much impossible for you right? So if he can bring you to orgasm through foreplay that would be a big confidence boost.... For us guys (well the ones who care about pleasing their partner) bringing her to orgasm is pretty much like a touchdown or home run....

You made me smile yes it is like a touch down or home run for a guy - same as it's an ego boost for a girl to have the guy totally exhausted and relaxed after sex (imo). He is very relaxed and happy and content after sex so for me that feels good.

He has said that he wants to 'make me go' (his words) and seems to think that just sex will do it... I have mentioned that foreplay is important if he wants to reach that goal

Going back to inexperience - personally if he thinks that I'll orgasm just with the actual act then he has either been with girls that can or they have 'faked it'. I don't want to have to 'fake it' - have done that in the past and to be honest it's just a let down for me. Plus if we did end up together for a long time I want to be able to experience the real thing, not have him think that I have.. if that makes sense!

That makes total sense... For some guys who are inexperienced or haven't done their research they don't understand that some women can not "go" from just sex and some can't "go" at all. For us it is almost unthinkable not to be able to, heck we have to try not to.... But for women it is so much different and maybe he just doesn't understand or he sees it as a challenge that he has to win.... I know that I have been with girls who can't during sex and it is kind of hard to deal with when you are used to girls who go multiple times during sex. I think that as you two get closer and open the lines of communication more you will be able to work through this. It may take some time and patience on your part and a little mentoring, but you should be fine....