[raini65]

Everyday my husband lets me know what is wrong with me and what I don't do and what I haven't done. How much better he is than me. I don't like being put down everyday. He spends his mornings on swinger websites and looks at the casual encounters on craigslist everyday. When we have sex he usually will stop and say that he thinks I'm not into it(I am into it).I am not a very outgoing person and all this put down just makes me feel worse. I really don't know what to do.
Most of the time I feel like I'm stuck in my own mind and I want to get out!I need friends.I need to know I am not the idiot he says I am. I try to talk to him but he just talks over me or tells me I am wrong.I am tired, so tired. Any words of wisdom?

[Belle1979]

Harsh but I'd be looking at getting a divorce lawyer... no one deserves to be treated this way!

[REINE D AMOUR]

dear you are fine , when your partener is making you guilty all the time,even in sex ,i think you should take an important decision in your mariage,if you want my advice,he is not normal .

[spwhite24]

I strongly suggest you confide in a close friend, one who is very objective or see a professional counselor to take care of yourself first. Talking with someone you can get yourself together, reassure yourself that you are fine and then look at your options. Right now it sounds that he is not contributing to the relationship in a positive way but having a very negative, destructive affect. As hard as this sound, it takes two people who want the relationship and are willing to work at it. Either he wants to work at it, in which case couseling is a great way or he does not, in which case see a layer to protect your own interest. I know this from experience. Its the cold hard facts. Also be very careful as in many cases this kind of behavior can lead to domestic abuse, which actually it sounds like perhaps it is already bordering on verbal and emotional abuse. There are some good resources on the intenet on domestic abuse. Be very careful and take care of yourself

[Gus1234U]

what SpWhite said: be careful, and take care of yourself. these types of men are often violent when frustrated,, Gus

[hugs46]

You do not deserve to be treated this way. You do need to take care of yourself. Start to focus on you and getting better. I know it is hard to let go of someone when you love them, but in the end it is what you need to do especially if they are so wrapped up in themselves and are abusive. Good luck. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Nancy

[raini65]

Thank you all very much for your replies. I am trying to take care of myself as best I can(I was recently dx'ed with MS) but some days are better than others. But I do appreciate all the kind words and reassurance as I don't get too much of it. Thank you REINE D AMOUR for saying I am the normal one as that is what I have thought all the time. I think you are right.
I will be careful because I think this is bordering on verbal and emotional abuse also.
Thank you again. I think this forum and website are great!