[cocoa58]

Ok, this is more about extended family relationships. I have a weird family - hate to say it but its true.

In therapy, my therapist hears about my family (usually whatever is the latest stunt they've pulled on me) and he just shakes his head!

Well, can't blame him - several other therapists I've seen (and didn't stay with - the present therapist is finally working out), have done much the same - I do have a weird family!

And my family thinks I'm crazy. Well, I go to therapy and tell the therapist about them - and most of them agree I'm the healthy one! Isn't that a riot?

Its sad actually though because my maternal family has a thread of abuse that stems from my maternal grandfather who was extremely abusive to my grandmother and the whole family.

This particular family had 8 children - so all of them came out of abuse, and all of them plus their offspring now have abuse issues.

And all of my family is made up of either victims or perpetrators of "some" kind of abuse.

Well - I'm related - lucky me. But I moved several states away and stay away from this environment, mostly. But from time to time, they call me up and hassle me over some odd issues. It usually makes me just want to explode with anger - because I was one of the "abused" ones.

Family systems are interesting. Anybody else have thoughts or have a similar family? It was hard to cut some ties, but I realized in time it was the only way for me to break free of it and be healthy. I think I'm accepting it and do have some occasional - although more controlled - contact with them.

I love them - but they are sick. And I need to work on me so I won't be too.

[REINE D AMOUR]

hello cocoa ,some times we have to save ourselves ,i think leaving the state it was a great idea ,you should have a break and try to cut them from your life .