[Lexicon78]

My sister is such a ....jerk! She told me tonight that she didn't think I should get married and that i wouldn't be with my bf for very long or that we'd last! She's just mad because she jumped in with the first guy that came along to marry her. She barely even knew this guy and she thinks she can tell me what to do!

Then she had the nerve to tell me I couldn't have kids because I wouldn't be able to afford them. What parent can really afford kids? Yes it's a big responsibility, but there is help out there, ya know? I don't know what her problem is!

[Gemstone]

I know at least for myself, I wouldn't have kids unless I could afford them. Thats just me though and things happen, but I wouldn't plan it unless I could afford it. It just seems irresponsible.

I could afford them, but I wont have them because I would be an unstable parent. I wouldn't want to raise a kid being as unstable as I am.

[TheOrganicAngel]

Just tell your sister to mind her own business. There will always be people out there who think they know how to run your life better than you do. Reconize it for what it is--a petty power struggle. Call her on her behaviour--tell her that it is unacceptable to speak to you that way and she needs to back off and tend to her own problems. Avoid her if you can--she'll move on to another target soon enough.

Best wishes,

~Alexiel

[soonforgotten]

((((((Lexicon))))))) take a deep breath and relax your sister is just trying to annoy you and is succeeding at it, as hard as it can be at times to do ...... just ignore her.
Lisa

[BlueFaith]

(((Lexicon))) I know how ya feel! I have a sister that is the same way to me. I eventually just end up telling her to mind her own business. She'll get mad at me for a few days and then she'll get over it. Best of luck to you!

Jen

i can't add anything to the above posts. they are all excellent. i'm wishing you luck and peace......xoxox pat

[dottie]

Hello Lex!

Have you sat down and did the math? Do you honestly believe that you can afford to have children....& how many would you consider having?

Do you think you have what it takes for good "parenting."

Don't compare yourself to what other couples' have done. That's not rational. What ARE the components for Good Parenting?

So much quant thought about "blended" and "extended" families.

The divorce rate being what it is...can you honestly say and are you committed to having your child raised by both YOU and the biological father, family intact?

A lot of careful and crucial considerations to be made. We owe our precious children at leaset these considerations, NO?

Too many people have children for wrong or selfish reasons. And the result is an AMERICA in crisis with respect to what should be thoughly invested in and devoted to.

Just my thoughts on such an important subject.

as usual~Dottie

[Gemstone]

Good post Dottie

There are so many people who are not prepared to have children and who do it for the wrong reasons. Please don't be another one of those people Lex.

I don't know you at all, but read through the posts you have made here lately. Do you really think now is the right time to have a child? Children need stability.

I know this probably isn't the response you were looking for, but I have to be honest. Don't have children unless you are totally prepared for it. It is expensive, and a lot of hard work. How have you prepared for this?

[h0kie]

I don't think many people are ever financially ready for a child. But there is such a thing as being financially set and not. I know personally, that I wouldn't want to bring a child into the world knowing that I will need to rely on public assistance or such. Unforseen things happen, but planning on using the system isn't right for me. (I'm not saying that is your intention)

Bottom line, you have to do what is best for you.