[jbug]

This weekend I was around my Grandma and she made a comment that my cousins are going to be in town. They live in the Houston area and aren't in our neck of the woods that often due to the fact one of their children is not good in the car and it is about a 12 hour ride in the car and flying with their brood is too expensive.

She said I guess there will be a get together so we can meet their adopted little girl and when she said adopted it was kind of snotty. My other cousin has 2 step kids and when we are counting her grandkids she doesn't count them in because as she is quick to say they aren't blood. I fear she is going to do that to this precious little one too. Yes "Sara" is adopted and isn't blood related but she is still ours just like the others are ours too whether they are blood or not.

I don't know whether to say something to her or not. It really bothers me that she doesn't see "Sara" as just a Granddaughter she sees her as an adopted Granddaughter she has her as label. I hope she doesn't keep reminding her of this as she grows up. "Sara" has some difficulties as her mom was a drug user while pregnant with her. I am not sure what they are but Grandma has a problem with people with problems so I think that is going to cause problems too. I just don't want her to stare at Sara and say something negative to her or my cousins.

What should I do?

Jan

[Belle1979]

I'm adopted and have always know it. It was never hidden or kept from me - just knew that I was extra special as I was 'chosen'.
My grandparents on my fathers side did accept me but were unfair when it came to things like presents etc... so possibly not as accepted as I could have been or as my cousins were.

If you grandmother is not accepting of the child, I think the best option is to just make sure that she feels loved by the rest of the family, that she knows that she was 'chosen' and that she is very much wanted.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

I strongly agree with Belle as I seem to all the time, she has a loving mind and is quick to support which is heart warming

I would too suggest that she is drawn close to you and made to feel loved and as much a part of your family as any other family member, show her the love and give support from your heart since that is very much natural to you and is your given nature

Build a rapport between you and continue to write to one another and build upon that natural bond that cousins have. Yes you may be older than she, but she is very lucky to have you in her family, the family she was chosen by

It is easy to feel the natural care and concern you have for her even before you have met her, and that is so beautiful, so loving and I quite think that there is no other quite like you my dear jbug, such a sweet name for a sweet girl. You are a diamond and you shine just like one

Bright Blessings to you Dear One

Morgana