[lisa39]

Not only did she share all my secrets to my husband to break up my family and marriage, she now won't leave him alone. She sends him emails at work, calls his cell phone and professes her loyalty as a good friend to him when he needed her most. At the same token, she hopes we can work thru our problems but in the same breath, sends scathing emails to my work about what a terrible person I am...etc. I want her to go away.....she is one of those people that will not be ignored and emails lies to my husband to get a reaction from him. Thankfully he and I are in sync and we're trying to figure out how to difuse her without making her angry. What are your thoughts, I'm at my wits end. Oh and did I mention, my son is friends with her boys and they live in our neighborhood. <font color="red"> </font>

[BlueFaith]

Wow, that really sucks. At this point, I wouldn't even care if I made her mad (unless you think she would go so far as to physically harm you)! If you and your husband are trying to work through your problems then maybe BOTH of you should confront her and tackle the problem head on. Something has to stop her... My God, she sounds horrible. I truly feel sorry for ya. And I hope you can get the problem taken care of very quickly. Best of luck to you.

-Jennifer-

[Hope4me2]

with Mental

That really sucks and I am so sorry you are going through this...
{{{{{{{{{{{{{lisa}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[lisa39]

in one of her emails to my husband, she tells him that I had been trying to correspond to her via email, which was true....however she stated, "Lisa says that entire family thinks you're a piece of %#@&#!." She emphasized (means you...meaning my husband) and then his reply to her was, "don't believe a word she says, she is trying to divert the attention off herself, don't buy into it." As God is my witness, I never said such a thing to her. She made the entire thing up. Last night his cell phone rang and I answered it. "Is John there? I asked, may I ask who is calling, and she replied, "Amy." I tell you, she has nerve and it was so uncomfortable, mainly because I wanted to really tell her off.

[h0kie]

Why don't you and your husband filter her emails directly into the trash or a specific folder? If the harassment continues then think restraining order. It sounds like you are replying to her emails? If you are, of course she going to continue, she is getting a rise out of you.

[lisa39]

You are so right and that is what was happening. Tonight we got home from Church and there were (3) more waiting to be read. Deleted and did not respond to any of it. Filtered both email address to block her. I hope this is the end of it, unfortunately she lives in the neighborhood and are children play and go to school together. Tonight my husband and I sat our 9 year old son down and told him that he can not go and play at their home but the boys are more than welcome at our house anytime. Thanks for the advise. Do you really think she'll stop harrassing us? I really hope so.

[h0kie]

I would hope once she sees that you and your husband are a united front she will move on to something (or someone) else.

When my husband relapsed, he had an affair. I found his "secret" cell phone with calls and such. He asked that I answer the calls that camen in. (Long story) So I did. There was one woman who kept calling and calling and calling. I would answer her the same every time. "No, you can't talk to him. No, he's not here." and hang up. The last time she called she said something horrible to me, and hung up. She hasn't called again in a year.

Long story short. As long as you and your husband are united in this, I would think she would give up. Of course, some people are so unstable that they don't, but if that happens you need to explore your options as she is stalking/harassing you.

no matter what. Keep up informed.

[tracylee]

Wow thats kinda scary isnt it?? Basically, as most of the responses have said, keep a united front! Hopefully she wont be passing messages to you thru the children!!!! Good luck and keep strong!

[lisa39]

That is what I am hoping but it appears she won't go up. I followed your suggestion about blocking her email and when my husband checked our home email from work, another email popped up from her and she is still trying to communicate with him and rationalize her bizarre behavior by trying to lure him in with her selective confusion when it came down to the facts. Emails don't lie, and she got caught red handed playing my husband for a fool. When he brought it to her attention, she freaked...