[Midnightmoon]

I met this guy years ago, then we found each other on facebook and he moved here to be with me. We moved way to fast, somehow he ended up living with me and for free for the most part. He would do some things around the house and stuff orsay that taking me out to dinner covered his portion of the rent. He worked sometimes but convinced me that he could work better and our relationship would be deeper and better if he could get glassblowing equiptment to make more money. He played on my vunerabilities, my desire to have a partner and a family. He said he would always be there for me.

I bought him a torch, a kiln on my credit card and put an oxygen tank in my name. He has paidme back for the torch but he is 2 payments late on the kiln and still hasnt' paid rental on the oxygen tank. thats 500 dollars plus a liability of 300 for the tank if it done'st get returned. Our relationship took a turn for a worse after I got him these things, he kept saying 'lets always be best freinds' and wouldn't communicate with me when I asked for communication. He wouldn'teven let me meet his freinds or wach him blow glass! I would get upset whn he wouldn't communicate and then since i got upset because he wasn't following thorugh with his promise to have a family and be with me, I was having mental health problems. Last week he said he would get me the money but he has not gotten into contact with me for a week when he said he would call the next day. All this stuff is at someone elses house. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I am overreacting about him being 2 payments late and not contacting me or what.

We have a contract, but I don't know what good it will do with an under the table job and him really not caring about the legal system. I also have his life folder with his important documents and birth certificate.

I am definatly very hurt. At first I wanted to be able to preserve the relationship but at this point I just want my mony back.

I have social anxiety so I am scared to call the numbers of his freinds. I don't know them and they don't know me. I am scared to go to the place where I know he is set up. He is very overbearing and he would swindle me if I went over there and I would get very shy. I really don't know what to do. He is supposed to have all his payments by Dec. 6th. He is supposed to make a payment a week and hasn't made any. SHould I wait til then? Should i call his freinds now to try to get in contact with him? His phone doens't work. SHould I try to go over there and get the equiptment back? I am so lost. I put so much into this relationship the past year nad I can't belive that someone who calls me even their best freind would do this to me.

sorry this guy is taking advantage of you. you might want to consider taking him to small claims court.

[Midnightmoon]

yeah the nature of his job is under the table so I don't think there is a way to get the money out of him

[madisgram]

definitely small claims court. it doesn't matter about his income under the table. he owes you! i'm afraid he used you in the relationship and he prob doesn't plan on honoring his debt unless you take legal action.
i'd contact the oxygen tank company to advise them you will not pay for the rental and cancel your credit card payments hereafter. advise the tank company of the situation, his obligation and where he lives. this may not work but i'd try it if it were me.
hopefully you'll be wiser in the future when dating someone. yes, he preyed upon you big time. then you allowed it.
best of luck to you.
welcome to pc too!

[phoenix7]

How are you doing?

its a very difficult situation - you thought you had found a partner and it seems as if he has used you - contacting the oxygen company is a good idea and maybe tel them they can go pick it up from him -

if his phone is out of order can you go over there wiht a friend and see if he's stil there - or get a friend to check it out? dunno - its difficult when you know he can probably manipulate you .....

just my opinion - but it sounds like he is taking advantage of you and im so sorry you have to experience this

take care and keep us posted

P7

[noway1209]

if you can handle taking him to small claims, you should do it. i've dated a boy (not a man) like this before and his promises are most likely empty. he just wants you to stop asking him. i think contacting the rental company is definitely a good idea, however, because the rental is in your name, am i wrong to think that this can be viewed as a theft? if he won't give the tank bank and technically it's yours (via the rental co.) then you may have the right to file a police report and let the rental co. know when (if) you have done that. you may not then be responsible for the costs.
good luck!

[Rhiannonsmoon]

He really has taken advantage of your really good nature. Foreclose on the kiln and the other equipment and sell it to make the repayments on your credit card.

Go to the local court and swear out the re-possession papers then go with a truck & driver to repossess them.

Then call Internal Revenue and report him.

He has shown you no respect, he has taken every advantage and treated you very badly