[addipaddi]

I have been in a relationship for around 3 years now, but its becoming quite complicated.
It started off pretty great, then after 1 year we moved in together, have little arguements here and there (who doesnt) but then late last year i started getting really bad pains during sex.

Since then i have been to the doctors pretty much every week about these pains and was told i would have to have a laparoscopy (key hole surgery) because he thought it might be endometriosis. Went to 3 different gynaecologists all said endo and i wont be able to have kids. Now my bf took this...strangely. He completely blocked himself off from me, not talking, not wanting to know what was going on in my life etc.
Since then, i have had my operation (on thursday) and suprise surprise i DO NOT have endo

So where is all my pain coming from?

Bf is being so hard on me that i am faking that it hurts to have sex etc and thats all he talks about, he says i need to get back to gynae and ask why it hurts to have sex blah blah

i feel as though he doesnt care about the diabolical pain i am in everyday, hes only worried about the sex part.

I feel trapped and dont know what to do anymore.

Maybe its a typical male thing - or maybe hes just fed up with me and my "stupid excuses"

Thanks for letting me vent

[Leed]

You could have Vaginitis - There are different kinds of it, but they cause pain. Your doctor needs to check you for that. I believe he'd need to do just a swab, and perhaps send it to the lab, but I'm not sure. Ask your doc about it.

It's wierd your BF would act like that. MEN! And they say women are complicated!! God bless and best of luck. Hugs, Lee

[bridgie]

so you have had urine test and blood workups and biopsies and all that jazz? your bf needs to be a bit more supportive through this. i hope they figure out what is the cause of your pain soon bcz with women it can be soo many things. sorry your man isnt being a little more patient with you until you know more about what is happening

[addipaddi]

Thank you for your support.

Yes i have had all tests etc. Next will have to get a colonoscopy because it may be Crohns Disease... how fun!!

Typical Males alright!!

Thanks again !!

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello addipaddi,

Welcome to pc. I feel for you. I have Vaginismus and that is just awful too. I really hope you don't have Crohns though. At least with Vaginismus it could get better.

Just letting you know that I know what the pain is like and how hard it is to deal with as well as the way it makes you feel. Please let us know how you go,

Rhiannon

[LookingforCalm]

Why is he being so hard on you when it clearly hurts? That's pretty sad... especially since you've been going to doctors and stuff.

I'm really sorry about what you're going through, but he shouldn't be putting so much pressure on you. Seriously. He needs to take a step back and realize that this isn't hypochondria, you are in pain!

I really hope you get better soon. And hopefully all with your BF will be worked out in the process.

[addipaddi]

Thanks for that LookingforCalm.

I hope that he soon realises this too!!

Thank you